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    Strider is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Exclamation Getting My Ex Back...SO CLOSE advice needed ASAP

    So since November I've been doing my damn best to try and get back together with my ex.

    I've slept with other women, I've moved on to the best of my ability, but it all seems to flow back to this girl...and I really want to try and make it work with her.

    I'm no pick up newbie, 3 years in and this game has changed my life. I'm good at it, and this girl is the type of girl I'd always dreamed about having in my life before I found pick up.

    Long distance became the issue, she decided it was too difficult to maintain a relationship 2 hours away (where she now goes to college).

    Since the break up I've done everything by the book of pick up. We've remained friends. I never gave her the "I love you take me back" speech. I've never told her I miss her. I never told her how much she hurt and destroyed me. I've become good friends with her best friend back here, which I know she hates and makes her jealous.

    Since she decided to break it off with me she has been the one, EVERYTIME, to re-open dialogue with me. "How are you's?" "Good luck with this's" "How did that go's?" and all this stuff...she still wants me in her life...

    Every time I respond, telling her how awesome I'm doing. How good my life is (in reality it's sh1t) and then I ask her how she is...she doesn't reply. She leaves it a week, then messages me again...she leaves me waiting for her reply, it farks my head up for a few days afterwards when I'm like WTF!?

    Until tonight I haven't seen an ounce of her caring or real emotion though, no big signal that she was even remotely interested in me...then she sends me 3 WhatsApp messages in a row:

    "Thanks for replying to my tweet" I didn't reply, she's being her usual sarcastic bitchy self here (god I love that about her)

    "It's not like it was heart felt or anything" Sarcasm again. My dog recently got put down (and I thought I was lonely when she dumped me!) and she sent me her well wishes via twitter. Yeah thanks. Real heart felt. Bitch. (God I love that about her...)

    "Can I call you this week? Just to chat, nothing weird I promise"

    I'm excited and nervous by the fact she cares enough to notice that I didn't tweet her. Or that she wants to call me!? I want to speak to her more than anything, but I don't know what to do from a game perspective.

    Do I ignore for a while? Do I say no? Do I say yes, if so what do I say? Is there anything I can suggest or do or say in the meantime?!

    Please help guys, it all hangs on a knife edge here.

    Strider out.

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    Default Re: Getting My Ex Back...SO CLOSE advice needed ASAP

    I discovered this whilst not trying to get my ex back....

    I moved on quickly and did the same as you, low contact, never initiating etc. In the end she got really distressed about it, she broke it off with me and then had a go at me for me appearing to move on.

    she rang at christmas and we talked, at this point I changed tact ( I was feeling bad because I could tell she was really upset). I told her that I did care about her but that I had to do what was right for me.

    This sent her into overdrive, it was like dangling a small bit of hope not throwing the whole I still love you thing around (I do still love her) and after that all the attraction she'd lost seemed to be instantly restored because she was having to work for my attention again.

    What I'm saying here is the trick to getting your ex back is to push her away whilst she tries to contact you initially then throw in a small pull, a small admission of affection then push a little bit more. Let her do all the work and just prod and encourage as needed...

    for your situation, I would accept the phone call as you need to throw in a small pull to keep her interested.

    I would be interested to see what others think?

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    Default Re: Getting My Ex Back...SO CLOSE advice needed ASAP

    Yeah I've left it today, have sent her nothing.

    I don't like this frame of "can I call you?" because I don't want to be waiting around for her call...so should I just call her later on tonight, no reply to her messages...just straight up call?


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