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    Default restarting a flame with HB

    Basically, i wanted to share a point of view, and ask a simple question.

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    There is this chick that I used to pretty much do anything you can think of, yes closed her and everything HB 9.

    There was a few disputes over some other girls in between, nothing too harsh, and a few events in her life that took over, such as a new job, and a few restrictions on her drivers license for not thinking things through.

    I have contacted her maybe 3 times in the past month, and in 1 message she replied, and the other 2 she did not.

    I have information that tells me she is busy because of her new job, but in my mind that should not be a reason to respond.

    Here comes the question: Should I do something differently, or should i just drop the situation and move on?

    P.S: All messages have been text, not in person, all in person conversations are good, and she seems interested at those times.

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    Default Re: restarting a flame with HB

    No one has a response to this, if anything a point of view?

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    Default Re: restarting a flame with HB

    Try calling. If you're gonna rekindle something, you want to spark an emotional response. A phone call does that better than a text message.
    Always leave her better than you found her.

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    Default Re: restarting a flame with HB

    As a matter of fact, i was thinking that, but was not entirely sure.

    Let you know if it works out

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    Default Riding out into the sunset

    By the sounds of it, she may be losing interest in you. I suspect her kindness in public is to just show you that she isn't mean or anything. I've had the same thing happen to me before.

    I think your best bet is to just move on and give her the cold shoulder. If she does still care about you, she will notice and come for you, but don't try to pursue her. That just makes you look needy. If she does come back to you, then you can make the choice of whether to let her back into your life or not.
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    Default Re: Riding out into the sunset

    Swagman,

    I have a feeling that is the very next step.. however, since i have figured out that it might be a lost cause to rekindle this not like i want to try hard at it anyway. I figured, i can use this experience, and try it out. if it works, great! If it doesn't i don't miss out on anything anyway.

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    Default Re: Riding out into the sunset

    Quote Originally Posted by BarcelonaPUA View Post
    I figured, i can use this experience, and try it out. if it works, great! If it doesn't i don't miss out on anything anyway.
    That's an awesome mindset to have, and that's something I can support. It's always good to be able to face failure head on and just go into it. Women would prefer a man who is willing to suck it up to shame rather than avoid it when they can.

    Other than that, keep up the good work, and may the force be with you.
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    Default Re: restarting a flame with HB

    Vicodin24, your suggestions are working. Also, Swagman, the field test is giving results, by substracting from the situation, not texting and talking more i got more responses, now she is the one starting txts, while i just sit and reply to few.

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    Default Re: restarting a flame with HB

    I think I started tearing
    Glad you're making it work for you!
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