Re: Need Advise with 10/10
Hmmm this is very interesting. There may be other things that could help you that I cannot think of, but I know one thing that will severely change things around for you. To me, it's the magic pill that people look for, but hard to wrap your head around and implement it.
And the answer is literally my signature quote below my response. (Mind you it's not literally mine. But I forget who wrote it lol.) It basically means that it doesn't matter who is right or wrong, only who has a stronger frame of mind.
Frames are when two people are looking at the same thing, but different perspectives. Take two people looking at a sunset for instance. One has a pair of purple shades while the other has orange. It's the same sunset right? But difference perceptions. The ability to take the shades away from someone and give them a pair that you prefer is called frame control. I'll use your experience for an example. She says:
- you are arrogant
- That you are too young
- And have a different mindset and are immature
What makes her right about these things? You may feel she is right about these things about you. But WHY do you feel she is right? Is it because she's hot? Because you value her? What if a woman with pimples, missing teeth and a lazy eye told you the same thing? Would you believe her?
We tend to accept the frame of someone who we feel has more value than us. Once you realize that you have more value than her you begin to see how imperfect she is and tell her things like
- She is an idealist
- She needs constant attention and validation
- She is too free spirited to be caged
- Or she wants to find someone that she can express her loyalty to
You can say pretty much anything. Objective reality only exists because it's the combination of most peoples perceptions. So on an individual level, our perceptions are relative. Not real. And we can re-shape them if those perceptions are strong enough. What perception do you need?
That YOU are the prize she needs to earn. That you already know she wants to sleep with you and you will only let her if she meets your standards and expectations. That you have more value than her. Do not say this verbally, but this should be your mindset. If your frame is strong enough and all your behavior filters through this mindset then she will realize that you actually have more value than she does and naturally become attracted to you. And as any experienced PUA will tell you, value is purely based on perception. Hope this helps and good luck.
"All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."