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Thread: How bad did I mess this call up?

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    Default How bad did I mess this call up?

    I got this girl's number from OkC and I got her to agree on a date on Thursday, but she didn't have her work schedule so we had to wait to finalize our plans. She said she'd get her schedule on Friday and let me know what was up.

    So Friday rolls around and of course she doesn't get in touch with me (what else is new?), and so today I sent her a hook text that just said "Well Smiles I had somewhat of an epiphany about you..." About three hours went by and no response, but I could see that she read the text (the wonder of the iPhone, I wish I hadn't seen she read it) right when I sent it. No big deal, if she responds she responds and if she doesn't I'll call tomorrow.

    Well then she started creeping my OkC profile and was online, so I was like, "Fuck this, I'm gonna phone her and give her shit for creeping my profile." I call her and she answers, and she tells me she was about to return my text and what not. I jokingly say, "Sure, sure." With an audible laugh thrown in to make sure she knew I was joking. Then we arrange the date, I tell her that I'll get back to her with the finer details, and then I just start some casual conversation. She asks what my epiphany was, and I say with a laugh, "Oh, just that you only want me for my boyish good looks and devilish charm!"

    She cuts me off pretty quickly and tells me that she has to leave the house to get to work, but can we continue our conversation later (this is where my AFC starts jumping out of my chest). I completely misinterpret what she's saying and ask, "You mean like tonight or tomorrow, or what?" (the reason I responded this way was because I'm going out tonight, but I should have just said that from the get go). She responds that she won't get off work until late, so not tonight, and I tell her that's good because I was going to be out anyways.

    Ok, so how bad is it? HAHA. I realize I got into AFC territory when I called her after the text, but I had thought that through. I could see she was online, I saw her creeping my profile, and I had a good reason to call and tease her a bit. But the whole "You mean like tonight or tomorrow, or what?" thing has really thrown me off. Really bad response and I realize that.

    My plan of attack going forward is to not contact her tomorrow and send her the date plans later in the evening on Monday. But what do you guys think? How big of a disaster is this? How should I move forward?
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    Default Re: How bad did I mess this call up?

    One thing I noticed with PUA is the fear of going AFC. It happens, man. Everyone slips up. An AFC slip here and there isn't gonna ruin your chances - just be sure to get back on track and don't dwell on it. Besides, it wasn't that bad.

    Contact her with a part of the plans (such as the activity, but no mention as to the exact location nor time) on Monday and say you'll give her more info later in the week. Gives you a reason to contact her and keeps her on a hook, so to speak.
    Always leave her better than you found her.

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    Default Re: How bad did I mess this call up?

    Duke, this is the same girl you established the chase frame with right?

    Minor slip-up and it shouldn't be a dealbreaker. I seen worst and even had my share of slip ups especially when I'm tired and my wit feels dull. If the girl is attracted to you, then she'll think nothing of it.

    I also know that every women is different on their response times. Alot of times, texting has to do with circumstances. She might be busy or one of those high strung folks who make their schedule seem more hectic than it is.

    From what you are describing, I'm sure this girl is interested in you. Normally, if a girl is interested in a guy, she will creep his profile...thoroughly .

    Since you got a decent recon that she could flake, when you set date, I would use some strategic safeguards. When you set date you should always HINT to her to make it look like you are fitting her into your busy schedule. You must demonstrate to her that your time is limited/precious.

    So one way to do that is when you set date, tell her two days that you are busy (because of some crazy or cool engagement going on in your life). The gist of it is:

    “So I think I’m fairly free on Thursday, oh no wait, I got a party that night, hmmm. So Thursday and Friday I can’t do.”

    Thereafter, based on her work schedule she might suggest certain nights she's free. Then you can go further saying something like:

    "Oh cool. I have [X night free] but I can only do after 7:30 pm"

    Whatever you do, don't make it look like you are working around her. Get yourself in that mindset that you are not going to wait for her to be unbusy. Keep it alpha as much as you can. This is one way to make that slip-up a forgotten memory.

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    Default Re: How bad did I mess this call up?

    Yea, it's the same girl.

    Funny thing is this week is hectic and I am trying to figure out a day to make it work for me. haha

    But thanks for the tips on the flake safeguards. I'll be sure to make sure she knows my time is precious.
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