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    Default Annoyed with girl I really like

    Hi all,

    Am new here, but I need some advice on how to proceed with a girl... I guess I'll just jump into it, hope you guys can help.

    I approached a girl in the street (pulled up my car) and had a really good conversation with her. After some push and pull she gave me her number.

    First date we went to have a coffee, which was all right, but I didn't have the same energy I had when I first met her, as I thought we had a connection and that she really like me anyways. So I dropped a bit of the dynamicism I had during the approach, and I never upped the energy level since then either.

    Second date we went for a movie and then dinner. I kissed her during the movie and she seemed REALLY into the kiss. Went to dinner, kissed her afterwards and she was not really into it anymore. Went for a drive as I asked her if she wanted to try my car as she as taking her license soon. So sh drove my car a bit which she liked. I drove her home, as she had to be back at 10! Good night kiss etc, was all good.

    Next date, we met up for a coffee at the same place as before. Was all right but nothing special and we kissed again (no other action, she's quite inexperienced and I thought maybe I should take it easy). She then said she would be unable to meet for 2 weeks, despite the fact that she would be close to where I was, while going to school, so plenty of times in the evenings IMO or after school whatever. Also, except for the first date (fri) we have only met on Sundays, as she always has other plans for fri and sat (I suppose hanging out with her friends).

    I gave her the two weeks, and texted her a few times in between to keep the contact up. After the two weeks I suggested fri or sat for a date, but was told she couldn't, but she asked if i had time on sunday. I told her I couldn't and asked if sat brunch sounded good. She couldn't on sat, but she reiterated that sunday afternoon she'd like to meet. I didn't text her back, only on monday to say that unfortunately I didn't have time yday, but asked how her WE was. She texted me back saying she understood with a smiley and asked how mine was. Then I texted her back asking if we should meet in the WE as it had been a while (a month by now). She said she could meet on Sunday afternoon. I waited a day (which she usually does) and texted her back saying sunday's fine at 2:30 pm. She texts back saying 3 pm would be good for her and asked me where we should meet. I didn't text her back until the sunday (today) morning saying 3 pm would be fine and where we should meet. Half an hour later I get a text from her saying "Sorry, we cannot meet today because I'm really sick, I can't go out.. Maybe another time Sorry". I called her, got the machine, didn't leave a msg. I was kinda pissed so I texted back: "Is it the swine flue??" (which btw has been spreading again in Europe!) No reply yet.

    I guess I really like this gal, and would like her to be my gf but i'm getting quite a few mixed signals. It would be nice with some fresh eyes on this.

    First off. Did I drop the ball by not having as much energy as when I first met her?
    Second, Is her wanting to meet on Sundays only a bad sign. It's like the fun days are reserved for her friends...
    Third, Did I do right IYO by giving her the shoulder last Sunday?
    Fourth, Is her last text a polite fark-off? Ie, "maybe another time"
    Fifth, where do I go from here? Last communication was a missed call to her, and a text asking if she has the swine flue.

    Cheers. REALLY appreciate it, hope the above isn't too long!

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    Default Re: Annoyed with girl I really like

    Listen, I mean this in the best possible light. If this was the same situation with an older woman I would be more than glad to help. But I cannot condone something like this. Even if she turns 18 in a month. There's no way that she has the emotional maturity that a 29 year old should have. I know full well this isn't what you want to hear, but during my time learning PUA one of the biggest things that helped my game was developing standards. High-value men have standards.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Annoyed with girl I really like

    I hear you Batman, and have some respect for your "high-standards" and I have dated girls in their teens twenties and thirties and I have found that age has no relevant correlation to maturity levels. The most mature girl I've ever dated was 19... In any case, I see it like this. I'm just a guy, she's just girl. She's not living in the stone-age, but has had 4 years of dating experience already. Besides that point, I am a fervent believer in personal freedom. Age of consent (along with your society-driven "standards" Batman) is all centralized political controls. She's mature enough for me. Enough said. Also, the age of consent in my country is 16 if that's what anyone is having qualms about.

    Would greatly appreciate input from someone who doesn't feel too superior to give their two cents and actually help out.

    Cheers,
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