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Thread: We both are playing a game! funny, but help!

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    Default We both are playing a game! funny, but help!

    OK so i had freezed out this one chick i liked a lot. She pretty much came crawling back. I gave her some attention, and other days i told her i was busy. We went out wednesday night, it was pretty fun. But she kept in contact and texted me that friday. I told her i was out with the guys, as it was a guys night out, i might have come off rude. She said ok, and i told her i care abou ther but i want a guys night out. She was fine with it. Then i messaged her yesterday (saturday), she said SHE's busy. I lol'd. She basically was answering my texts after a 2 hour break, usually its maximum 2 minutes. So i could tell that she was trying to look like she can be busy too sometimes. Any idea whether is hould freeze her out again, or should i message her again, initating another convo?
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    Default Fighting Fire with Fire

    By the sounds of it, you are correct. She is matching her game with yours. The easiest way to counter this is not to try and freeze her out. The best way is to shove your good time right into her face.

    Here's what I mean:

    Suppose you had plans to go out with the guys, and you invited her along. She tells you no, and you say alright then. Go about with your night, don't text her, and then start up a conversation with her the next day. Tell her how awesome your night was and how you just had the greatest weekend you have had in a while.

    Doing this has the effect of building up regret in her. She will see that if she had accepted your plans, she would have had that awesome time too. However, she fought fire with fire and got burned doing so.

    Another thing that I'm noticing is that through your description, she may be trying to gain a degree of control over you by trying to outplay you. Don't let this happen. Make her run the conversations, fire up her emotions by randomizing your response time, make her work to get to you.
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    Default Re: We both are playing a game! funny, but help!

    LMFAO. that is exactly what im doing. but i don't want to text her saying my night was awsome. seems pretty obvious that im playing a game. It kinda immature and noticable. And usually she texts me how my night was, but not this time. She definetly felt some control when I was the one that invited her out, and i played it like a champ. i was like cool! its ok, i was gunna go out anyways. and she was like "kk".
    u can sooooo tell she is trying to play the freeze out game, and it is killing her how im not so reactive. its funny, but i want to talk to her :/ she will message m within the next few days for sure but i dont want to wait.

    just want a good smart way to start it again, not seeming so interested, etc.
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    Default Quantity, not Quality

    It sounds like you have the right strategy approaching this woman. I can't see anything wrong with what you're doing.

    What I do mean though when I talk about telling her how awesome your night was is to go into detail about it. When it comes to this approach, it's not quality, it's quantity.

    It is weird to think about, but here's an example:

    Quality: "Oh, my night was awesome"

    Quantity: "My night was really intense. So, we get to the bar, and there's this crazy fight going on outside. You'll never guess who it was. It was Tammy, that girl you used to hate in high school. The cops came and arrested her, it was a great show. And then..."

    Second night not only has more detail to it, but the quality is actually a lot better to. If she read that message, she will regret not having gone with you.

    Other than what I listed above, keep up the great work.
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    Default Re: We both are playing a game! funny, but help!

    Alright. I just dont want her to fewl like im giving her aby kinda power by messaging hey. Then shes like heyyy wats up. Then imma b like my night was awsommee blah blaj blah . I just dont wanna b asking fr her approval but ur right about the quantity thing. Ill use it if she asks. Shes very cute but if she doesnt message me, fuck her haha theres other girls lined up that wudnt play games. Thanks for the answer! Have a great day!
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