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Thread: Long distance 'friend', realm of possibility?

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    Default Long distance 'friend', realm of possibility?

    Is it possible to stoke a woman 'friend's' desires by email or text, to such a point that she'd happily walk over hot coals from afar to come and meet you? Can words make a woman horny enough to make the logistically nigh-on impossible.. possible? Has anyone succesfully used patterns by email so well that she would fark a broomhandle?

    HB8.5 Pastagirl was a hot foreign student who I hung out with years ago. I was never offically LJBF'd, just didn't go for it. She now lives far away, in her native country. There was some attraction, but not enough to go further at the time, I was hugely AFC and married. I know I have to get her insanely horny to make her want to make that effort, it's a big ask. Is it worth entertaining the possibility? Can that intrigue be created by email?

    We have no chance of meeting otherwise. We kept in touch ever since she left, 8 years ago and I know we would have hooked up if we still lived in the same town, but no longer have that option. Looking for extreme scenario success here. I'm bored of her man-trouble messages and talking about the 93rd essay regarding her Phd. Ready to game her to the max, I don't feel I have anything left to lose since we no longer see each other in the flesh anyway.. unless..?

    This isn't a oneitis, just feels like unfinished business. I have other options, just interested in how far and how extreme you can go to make something seemingly undoable into a reality. It's pushing the envelope I guess, but I find it interesting. Thanks.

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    Default Re: Long distance 'friend', realm of possibility?

    Gaul, let's be honest here. This is one-itis, and there is an obsessive component to this. Personally, I don't think it's healthy and you should move on. That's just me laying it out there.

    But, in direct answer to your question, yes, you can build serious attraction long distances over text. I have a situation right now that will illustrate this. I took a year off to backpack around the world. I in a social network called asmallworld.net. It's basically facebook but for professionals. Anyway, they have this great feature called the geolocator which shows where members are around the world. So whenever I visit a country I make friends using their Geolocator. It's great. But anyway, I was supposed to head to Poland. So, I found a hot chick on the geolocator and emailed her telling her I was coming and we should meet up, etc. I sent her my facebook link, etc. She friended me and we started talking. I ended up never meeting her because plans changed and I didn't go to poland.

    This was nine months ago.

    Where are we now? Serious serious serious sexual texting and emailing. Every now and then we video, but she's actually shy, but you can tell she really likes me. We are at a point, where she is beggging me to have sex with her. I wish I could show you the text history. I literally can tell her, meet me here and let's just have sex the whole time. Yesterday, I actually said, "It's interesting, that I can f*ck you whenever I want and i never met you." she responded, "lol, yup". I plan on meeting her soon once she figures out her passport situation.

    How did this happen? It helped that I have a badass facebook page (I have written about facebook game previously). But more importantly, I built attraction over time, via emails and texts. The key is to keep it funny, and keep it sexual. If i look at the history, i think 90% of what we talk about has something to do with sex. I always try to bring up sex if we were talking about dog poo. Keep it funny, confident and sexual.

    At one point in the summer, I ahd this jealous girlfriend and she went into my facebook and de-friended a bunch of girls that were making nice comments about me (she was crazy). But anyway, this polish girl was one of them, and I forgot about her. A few months later after I dumped the crazy girl, she messages me and was like, hey why did you defriend me. Did i do something wrong?

    and i explained everything to her. recently the polish girl said, "i must really want you if you dissed me by defriending me, and I am going after you"

    It's very pwowerful sh*it. That's all I do. cocky funny, keep it sexual.

    I suspect your interaction with the current target is not sexual. That's a key ingredient.

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    Default Re: Long distance 'friend', realm of possibility?

    Thanks for your input Blazeboy.

    You're right that up until now not enough of our interactions have been sexual. I'm trying to change that and the last couple of emails have been more suggestive. The verdict on her reaction hasn't quite come through because we typically don't email each other every week, so we'll wait and see how she responds.

    I agree that I shouldn't put too much energy into this, but I'm very interested in keeping my options open and developing email skills won't kill me so I'm willing to make some effort. It's hard to imagine not keeping in contact with her, been doing that for so long and we got on so well, but I guess if she doesn't like the new me I'll just have to give her less and less of my time.

    She still goes on holiday every year to the town where we lived, which is back home for me (I also live abroad). It would make an interesting holiday for me sometime if I can get her to play along! Nothing quite like an adventure

    Can you give any examples of sexual talk you've personally used with the Polish girl which got you good responses? Just one would do for the purpose of analysing it. Thanks.

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    Default Re: Long distance 'friend', realm of possibility?

    Ok, an example from yesterday... word for word... her english is not great...

    Me: How was your day? You went to work?
    Her: Told u from friday. i went yesterday with girls to the go go club ha ha
    Me: You ever have sex in the office?
    Her: Never
    Me: If my new company ever works out then I want you to come to my office every day during the day time and suck my co*ck while your big t*ts hang down
    Her:Haha me too)) Yes, the office idea is great love it. Yesterday yes we went to the good club but today is monday and everything is closed.
    Me: We will lock the office door
    Her: Noooooo. Don't lock it. Will be more fun. I bring whisky
    Me: Whisky!

    et. etc. etc...
    i started this type of talk very early on...
    she would just say something normal, then i would ask a sex question.. and then tell her what i was going to do to her.
    also, a lot of photos exchange is good.
    like... hey what you wearing? take a pic and send to me.
    or send me your dirty photos. I have like 20 that she sent me.
    stuff like that.
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    Default Re: Long distance 'friend', realm of possibility?

    Completely do able. Worth the time and effort when there are thousands of girls within 100 miles? I dunno haha.

    I met a girl living across the country from me at a wedding. We made out and exchanged numbers. The next day she added me on Facebook. I didn't talk to her for a few months and she texted me drunk one night. We started texting flirty back and forth. Escalated to skyping and built tons of comfort. We adore each other and still do, hell one day I wouldn't mind marrying her. Anyways after a month of texting I convinced her to come hang out with me for a week or 2. She came and we had an amazing time and we still Skype to this day. She stayed with me 3 months ago. It's worth the effort to me cause I adore her. She came to visit cause she felt comfortable. That's key, you are asking this girl to come visit someone she has only spent a little time with. That takes her big time out of her comfort zone. It can happen though!!! plus you are a fantasy sometimes girls enjoy the fantasy and are scared if they make it real it will ruin the fantasy that was created.

    However be weary, I've had similar experiences where the girl was hot to trot but when I was in her city or she was in mine she chickened out. Actually Neil Strauss wrote a short story about this in rules of the game. I say go for it but don't get your hopes up, keep the interaction as a side project and continue to game as normal. Good luck!

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    Default Re: Long distance 'friend', realm of possibility?

    Thanks again Blazeboy, but is this overtly sexual stuff likely to work with someone who I've never said it to in 8 years? Wouldn't it initially have to be more subtle in my case? I understand how your example is exciting to a girl who has already gotten into such conversations with you, but I'm starting from scratch with someone I've known for a long time already. Any ideas? I don't want her to completely freak, she's actually a nice person, I don't want her last impression of me to be that I've become a complete weirdo. If it doesn't work and we stop talking, fine, but I want to leave looking and feeling good and less like a perv. Maybe I have to fly under the radar a bit? I imagine she's seen me as a friend for too long, this could be strange for her if I'm not careful, couldn't it?

    Yeah Flyboy, I think it's worth it as a side project, be good for my writing skills at the very least (actually learning some Italian through it.) I'm not sure if I made it clear enough, but this is someone I was hanging with IRL quite often. For the first year we would cuddle occasionally, hold hands, touch a lot while dancing, she'd sit on my knee, etc. I got the feeling we were both dying to kiss but I wimped out, I was worried about seriously falling for her. I've grown up a lot since and that side of it is out of my system now, but the idea of slapping dem cheeks remains! I managed to DHV myself by pure luck in front of her on a few occasions, French kissed 3 hot girls in front of her over the time we were out together.. that drunken nightclub thing, also stopped a mass bar brawl, had girls hit on me, etc, but again at the time I couldn't really proceed with them neither while there was a ring on my finger.

    The second year, I didn't see her much because of my horrible marriage/work/life problems. Then she moved back to her home country. There was already a base minimum of attraction, rapport and comfort, but it never went to kiss close and never got sexual. I made beta AFC mistakes like complimenting her eyes, telling her she was great and all that. If I had been more confident, cut out the beta bullsh1t and just went for it I think I would have got the job done. During a drunken AFC moment on the net I told her I really wanted to kiss her and had done so for a long time and that I should have done it when we were hanging out and that I hoped she wouldn't mind me saying so. The next day when I woke up, hungover, I remembered what I'd written and just thought 'fuuuuuuuuuc...' She wrote back saying that it wasn't a problem and she didn't mind at all. So, maybe she's just being polite, maybe she doesn't want to make waves, keep me as a friend. On the other hand how could I know? All said and done, as long as I haven't officially received the definitive LJBF, I'm willing to be more daring now.

    The last message I sent I told a story about how some female friend of mine was sending me raunchy messages (fictional, but she doesn't know that) I described what this supposed friend wanted from me. It wasn't very graphic, more seductive. Then I asked her if all girls fantasise this way and if I fantasised about her what would she think about that. I should have left that last part out, but anyway, I didn't get much response, just "I guess your friend must really like you", type of thing, then she proceeded to tell me about how she has the flu! Haha, obviously changing the subject and she didn't answer my question.

    So, I just sent another there, starting with the same premise that my supposed friend is ramping up the tension with me, sending me more daring messages, slightly more explicit (I detailed what my friend supposedly said to me.) Then I wrote something along the lines of..

    "Haha, (my friend) she's crazy, imagine if I wrote you something similar like this, 'HB Pastagirl, I want to pin you against the wall, breathe in your scent, feel your warm body against mine and taste your sweet skin all night long." What a hilarious idea!" We're friends!!

    So, I'm afraid this is as far as my sexual talk has gotten with her in the long time we've been speaking. I just want to get her thinking about it. Hopefully, she doesn't find me creepy and I get something to respond to from here!


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