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    Default how to "push" her into breaking up with her boyfriend?

    This girl I know said that she was on the verge of breaking up with her boyfriend but doesn't have the courage to do so.. they've been together for 5 years, she said the feeling is no longer there but she's afraid she'll miss the relationship. How do I "push" her to the finally break up with him?

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    Default Re: how to "push" her into breaking up with her boyfriend?

    I think it depends on what you want. Do you just want the sex? Or you want a relationship?

    If you want a relationship then you gotta respect that she has to do it in her own time. I mean, who wants to be a rebound right?

    If you just want sex then she may not need to break up with him. Let her think that it's ok to have both of you. That life is too short to live everyday in misery hoping the future will get better when it won't.

    Again it depends on what you want.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: how to "push" her into breaking up with her boyfriend?

    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.

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    Default London Bridge is Falling Down

    Although it may seem like a dick move to tear apart someone's relationship, I am really in no position to argue against it. I have torn apart several relationships before, all of which in intent of getting at the girl. Of course I did also have the moral obligation to release the girl from something that was clearly hurting her. In the end, I never got into any relationships with the girls, but they did end up going on to find boyfriends that were better than their last ones.

    In other words, we're both in the same boat.

    It is also for that reason that I'll share with you how to go about with tearing apart this relationship. I'm doing so not only with the intent of helping you to get at this woman, which I will also explain to you about this latter. I am also doing this because if the relationship is truly bad, then there is better out there for her, and freeing her from this relationship is one of the greatest things you can do for her.

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    Step 1: Build Negativity

    This is my most effective strategy when it comes to destroying a relationship. What I do is every now and again I will draw upon the negative aspects of a relationship. The best way to do this is to ask her how things are. For example:

    "Hey, has [boyfriend] talked to you any more?"

    "Are you doing better after [boyfriend] did [negative action]?"

    By doing this, you are causing her to recollect on the past and bring it back into thinking consciousness. Remember how you were taught that when you bring up an experience that is painful to someone, it will cause them pain? That's what you are aiming for here. Even if she does not tell you the truth, the thoughts will build and fester inside of her head. Eventually, the pot will boil over, and that's when you move on to the next step.

    Step 2: Be There for Her

    I once read somewhere that it is best for a man to be a friend before becoming a boyfriend. That is exactly what you want to do right now. You want to prove to her that you are a good man who is there to support her and make sure she is alright.

    When the time comes when she has to break up with her boyfriend, make sure you help her through it. Make sure she's doing alright, chat with her, try to entertain her and help her get her mind off of the topic. Do not try to do anything to pick her up, nor should you do anything that would show that you have an interest in her.


    Step 3: Wait

    DO NOT make any moves on her when the relationship has just ended. Give it some time. Occasionally see how she's doing, and if she wants to hang out, she'll initiate it. Other than that, you should maintain some contact, but not a ton to the point of obsession. Just a simple checkup and cheery conversation every now and again will do the trick.

    Usually, you should give about a month or two in order for her to heal over from her relationship.

    Step 4: Strike

    This is the step where everything catches back up to pace. Do not worry about being trapped in the labeled "Friend Zone". There is no such thing as being trapped in the friend zone. I know of guys who have broken out of the friend zone to successfully hook up with their female friends.

    From here on out, everything about being a good pickup artist comes into play. It's just a simple matter of initiating that first conversation and getting the ball rolling.

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    I am a gentleman. That's how I have always been. When I view being a pickup artist, you also have to be a gentleman as well. You cannot emotionally destroy a woman every time you make out with her and don't hook up with her afterwards. It's always important to show that you are a better man than that.

    Same thing applies to healthy relationships. DO NOT destroy a healthy relationship to get at the lady. Do it because you see she is upset and the relationship is breaking at the seams. It's like what many people say about the October Man Sequence:

    Those with evil intentions will only cause damage and harm using this technique.

    That, my friend, is what separates the boys from the men, and you from the rest of the crowd.
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    Default Re: how to "push" her into breaking up with her boyfriend?

    I get the gist.. @Batman I want a relationship with her, we have so much in common and I believe we'd make a great couple, I think it'll be such a waste to pass up on her.

    Thanks to Xavier and Swagman, both of your advice is pretty much along the same line so I'll combine the BF Destroyer technique and apply it to the steps Swagman provided.


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