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Thread: How can I act like i'm not afraid to lose her, without losing her?

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    Default How can I act like i'm not afraid to lose her, without losing her?

    Basically, I need to pretend like I don't need her, but in all actuality I still want her to be with me. So in turn this makes her afraid of losing me. I want to give her the impression that I dont care for her, on the days she has an emotional outburst and says hurtful things to me, doesn't listen to what I say, or withholds anything from me. What are some plans of action or words I can use to be willing to walk at any moment? But, remember I am only doing this if she is treating me in a way I don't want to be treated.

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    Default Re: How can I act like i'm not afraid to lose her, without losing her?

    If you're so attached to the outcome you'll probably end with negative results homie. You should learn how to be dependant on only yourself for good emotions, not attached to circumstance you don't ultimately have control over. In conclusion, stop being a chode and understand that there are plenty of girls just like her and if you believe otherwise, you have more problems than a "technique" will help you with.
    Caveat: Just because I feel a certain way about my journey doesn't mean you should feel the same about yours.

    If you can't say that you would rather die than not do it; you don't want it bad enough.

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    Default Re: How can I act like i'm not afraid to lose her, without losing her?

    I'm with elitist on this, plus wouldn't you rather be with some one that treats you how you want to be treated? There are thousands of girls out there willing to be the girl you want.

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    Default Re: How can I act like i'm not afraid to lose her, without losing her?

    Pretty much what elitist said.

    In my experience, the only way to get her to believe that you are willing to walk if you feel like it, is to actually be willing to walk.

    Back in my AFC days, i dated this girl on and off for awhile. we were together for about a year and a half before the first break up, and when she broke up with me, i was so desperate to get her back because i wasn't truly willing to walk away. Even on the 3rd break up, when i KNEW i needed to walk and act like i don't care, the desperation resurfaced, without my control.

    Now fast forward about a year. A girl that i dated and i recently broke up. The whole reason was because she wanted to break up. She gave some lame excuse, but i didn't care about that. all i needed to do was hear that she didn't wanna be with me, and i walked away, with no hesitation. The reason i could do it so easily was because i was actually willing to walk away. She actually rethought her decision when i walked away with no thought, but it was too late for her by that time.

    I don't think you can "act" the part, without actually having the mindset.

    hope i helped.

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    Default Re: How can I act like i'm not afraid to lose her, without losing her?

    I agree with these guys, it works, as it has worked for me, as long as you are willing to walk away at any moment. You can't act the part, you need to live the part.

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    Default Re: How can I act like i'm not afraid to lose her, without losing her?

    Basically, learn to adapt an emotionless mindset so to speak. That doesn't mean to use women, but act like you can live without them if things go south.

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    Default Re: How can I act like i'm not afraid to lose her, without losing her?

    All of these guys are right. You cannot ACT this one out. You don't need to act like you don't care about her, but let her know CLEARLY that you will not put up with behavior like that and that you are unaffected by it. David DeAngelo said it best in "Double your Dating", when girls use this type of behavior they are so accustomed to having guys bend to their every move, that if you can calmly show it doesn't bother you it usually creates a lot of attraction and separates you from other guys.

    I've done this with girls and will walk and have to be on my own for a little bit, but almost every time they end up coming back with an even stronger attraction (let them back on your own terms though, not hers). Just because she walks doesn't mean its over

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    Default Re: How can I act like i'm not afraid to lose her, without losing her?

    Quote Originally Posted by BarcelonaPUA View Post
    I agree with these guys, it works, as it has worked for me, as long as you are willing to walk away at any moment. You can't act the part, you need to live the part.
    yep but way too many guys get tied in emotionally and they cant walk away that easily...you have to be indifferent for this tactic to work and most guys cant pull it off..


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