This is a very interesting scenario, yet altogether annoying. The only reason why I'm asking help on this is because its a cultural situation. The girl, lets call her Jane Doe, is a straight up HB9. I met Jane through a friend of mine, say Tom, at a christian church about a month back. I did a little bit of push/pull and some DHV whatnot and really was a genuine sweet guy to her, and she loved it, and was texting my friend that night that I was a sweet and handsome and hot guy and whatnot. etc. I didn't ask for her number that night for a few reasons. They're all Assyrian, and its gentlemanly (or considered to) to wait and grow a relationship like a good christian man instead of rushing into things. So the next week same day I show up and she still has the same mood-ish, shy around me, what not, still really liking me. Then the third week, she tells Tom that some guy, say John Doe, has just come back into her life and is talking to her. So now she likes two people, but is leaning towards this guy because he is from her past and is much older (6+ years hes 26 she is 20) and he is also Assyrian.
I saw this guy at her birthday party and sized him up pretty quickly, typical tumor-nosed middle eastern looking guy, skinny arms and legs, kept his cap on like some thug, and wouldn't look at me when I'd do some dom stuff like stare him down. Not a fighter. Now, I did some searching around and found this out, the guy is still talking to other women, he just got back from the marines and has no job, and he wants to marry this girl. In assyrian culture when someone dates its literally giving away the woman, so I don't want this girl to fall into a shitty life with this loser. He was pushing himself on her at her party, trying to kiss her and I could visibly see her refuse him. He told her at an earlier point in time that they need to "increase their physical relationship" what a blatant fool. I know her and her brother/parents pretty well, and I could easily tell them how this older man was groping and touching their daughter and ruin his chances with her forever but I want to be creative and try to talk her out of seeing this guy.
I was going to sit down with her and do the gradual comparison thing, explain to her why past relationships dont work very well, and why age gaps dont help either, compare it to my own experiences, administer a good feeling juxtaposed with a bad one and kind of get her to see how foolish she is being. This girl wants to do pharmaceutical research and go to grad school, she cant be wasting time with some loser who is (well first off not a PUA in the least bit) and couldnt support her or a family with his measly earnings. This girl is a virgin, thats how most Assyrians are. Whats a good way I can set up a bad image of this guy in her head while at the same time not so much aggrandizing my own image but helping her see how this guy is just playing her or slowing her down? Hes someone she knew from her childhood so tarnishing his image may not be that easy, but he has been gone a long time and he is different she admits. I want her to realize that this guy is just extra baggage and is playing her and is not good for marriage. If he gets her its likely that this dreep will want to marry her, thats how Assyrians are, any relationship is permanent, well mostly. She's in a stupor right now and I want to bring her back over to liking me. Once I have her I'm golden, but this 'obstacle' is inconveniently placed in my way, and I must remove it. He isn't human to me, he's a piece of garbage, so it doesn't matter what method I have to use to get him away from her, as long as it works. What do you recommend? What are some good bf-destroyers (although their not technically dating because the parents wont allow it lmao). I know this girl is young but she's worth it and I look good to her parents and I believe I can win her over once the trash has been taken out.
Regards and respect,