Light at the End of the Tunnel
Never lose hope, my very confused and hopeless friend. As I have said before, there is no such thing as being trapped in the friend zone. You hear stories of men getting out to hook up with their friends, some of them even after a decade of friendship. Nothing is ever too long.
I definitely agree with Batman on this one, don't be a crying pillow for her. Stand firm and maintain your mindset on coming from a position of many women. If you want to get her best, try to pick her up as if she didn't have a boyfriend or an interest in another man in the first place.
Try to be entertaining, engaging, fun, spontaneous, you, everything that you can show, but don't make it free access for her. You want to make her want to come into your world as if it was exotic, rather than typical.
"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X