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    mnila1 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Lost Attraction for HB10 Fiance over Sexual History?

    Hey Guys – I’m going to try to keep this as short as possible. I met the girl of my dreams, she’s in love with me, we want to get married, just got engaged and she recently moved in with me.

    Only one problem she has major LSE and I found out that she couldn’t keep her legs closed in college her freshman year. She’s had 30+ partners I’m about double that. She’s 22, I’m 33.

    I’m a full Alpha, not an afc by any means. I don’t have a problem with her having a sexual history, bigger d1cks, whatever. I have a problem with the lack of SE it takes for a girl to let herself get used continuously with no ounce of self respect for herself or her body. This girl is a solid HB10 (with baggage maybe 8.5/9) and swears up and down she’s in love with me and only wants us to be together.

    She does the little lies and half truths, has made mistakes with guys in the past with being too friendly while we were together, still works the bar in a stripclub but is changing her schedule and job to spend more time together (her idea).

    My issue with her is I’m no longer attracted to her bc of her past, and some of the things she’s done since we’ve been together and don’t feel she’s marriage or relationship material. I may need to just get a Woman from another country I hate Western Women. There all flat out hoes, at least 99% anyway.

    Anyway to salvage this? Can’t get her being used out of my head. Relationship is likely toast even though were crazy about eachother.

    How do I rebuild attraction for her, trust (since she’s ruined it) between us, how can I ever respect her. Maybe I’m just old fashioned, it’s ridiculous these days to expect a Woman to respect herself and not ho it up in the US anyway. You US girls are going to have REAL hard time finding morons to marry you. This girl looks like she walked off a Victorias Secret mag or Weird Science, like I did some experiment to manifest the perfect female image. And she swears she’s in love with me.

    Also, apparently she never had anything outside of a clitoral orgasm until she met me. I’ve got her having multiples regularly from EVERY spot. How on Earth can a female have 30 partners and never get a real O.

    She’s about to be toast anyway but though I would reach out to the pro’s on this one. I’m normally a PUA and thought this was the one. I don’t care about womens past when their just FB but this is different. Let me know if you guys want more info. Just want to know if where I went wrong and how.

    Thanks again!
    Advice Please!!
    Last edited by mnila1; 02-06-2013 at 07:21 PM. Reason: Add Paragraph spacing

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    lamarre is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Lost Attraction for HB10 Fiance over Sexual History?

    It looks to me like what is really bugging you is not her past but rather her clingy-ness to you. She's obviously in love with you if she moved in with you. I think you still think that this is a hook-up in some sense but you gotta treat it more as a long term relation. Do you want to spend your life with this girl, even when shes old and not as attractive? How do you feel when you are with her? Is it when you're not with her that you think of her past or do you think of it when the two of you are having fun together? If you love her when you are with her then you are set for life. If in the end shes unfaithful or you're unhappy then cut your losses and get a different girl.

    I certainly dont feel like I have nearly as much experience as you but I hope what I've said can help clear your mind.

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    Default Re: Lost Attraction for HB10 Fiance over Sexual History?

    If your sexual past is no better than hers..what's the problem?
    Start counting from the day your relationship began, anything before that really doesn't matter. She wasn't a whore you picked up off the street. As long as she's faithful while in the relationship with you it's all good. Don't think for a minute that foreign chicks are any better. They have sexual history too.

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    Default Re: Lost Attraction for HB10 Fiance over Sexual History?

    The irony of all this is that you're bitching about her low self-esteem and yet it's your insecurities that are causing all the problems.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Lost Attraction for HB10 Fiance over Sexual History?

    Those are not my words but sure could sum up what i've always believed in

    "You must leave any relationship you are not happy in. No
    exceptions. You can try to work the problems out, but if the woman
    is not willing to budge on the issues that are important to you, you
    have to leave."


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