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    Question What should I do when she doesn't text me back?

    So, long story short, I got the phone number from a girl at a bar who seemed to like me. I sort of did everything okay - escalation, kino etc. That night, I just texted her "It was nice to meet you. Have a good night" (did it so that she has my number). She replied with "Thanks, you too". So, next thing I do is wait for a whole day before sending her a text. And today morning, I sent her another text, which basically said something like "hello, wassup?", and she hasn't replied to it yet. I know I possibly chose a very wrong, non-committal, generic first text, but now that the damage has been done, what should my next step be?

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    Default Turning the Tables

    Right now, your best bet is to just not worry about it. If she doesn't respond today, then send her the following message tomorrow.

    "Hey, I figured that someone of your attractiveness would be the type to quickly forget someone. But you know, looks can be deceiving, so I decided to give you the benefit of the doubt. Have a nice day."

    This comes from a reading by Derek Rake. As he explains in there, a woman is always prepared to give a speech in this category. However, she is almost never ready to receive it. This is also effective because it basically challenges her to prove to you that you are wrong.

    What she'll probably end up doing is send you a text message back apologizing for not getting back to you and that she is actually a nice person. At this point, you could say something like:

    "So you're not usually like this?"

    This is the ultimate bitch shield destroyer. This shows that you are not willing to stand up to her garbage, and that you will abandon her quickly if she gives you any more of it. It is basically a powerful show of hard will and manliness.

    Finally, she will probably text back saying that no she isn't. At this point, you can actually set up a date, believe it or not. You should also include a little bait and lure for her to come too. Something like this:

    "Well, if you go to [coffee shop] at [time] and buy me a coffee, I might forgive you, and I might also tell you about [awesome, potentially made up story about you]."

    I personally already have a crazy near-death experience of mine involving a dog, a semi, and a cheeseburger. The point of the crazy story is to spark her curiosity and interest. With my story, the outlying details just sound so ridiculous, you absolutely HAVE to figure out more.

    Do all of this right, and it will be hook, line, and sinker for you.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: What should I do when she doesn't text me back?

    Also, she suggested that night that I add her on Facebook, but I put it off for later. What's the best time to do that?

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    Default Is that a serious question?

    Dude, by putting it off until latter, you executed that perfectly. If you would have done it right at that immediate moment, it would have come of as trigger happy and coming from a position of scarcity. Adding her as a friend latter just shows that you have a life outside of Facebook and that she does not take first priority.
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    Default Re: What should I do when she doesn't text me back?

    If a girl doesnt text back i always wait at least a day, sometimes longer.

    Then i just text a version of: Are you getting shy on me.

    my roomate and I have used this dizens of times and it always gets a response. Usually gets the convo going again in a good way. sometimes not, but we always get a response, and if its not a good one just move onto next girl.

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    Default Re: What should I do when she doesn't text me back?

    swagman i think you're on the money there in a typical scenario where his text game was a1 or atleast good

    no i'm not out to hate on you but when you say

    which basically said something like "hello, wassup?", and she hasn't replied to it yet.

    do you honestly think she'd reply to something so generic boring and lame that all the other guys have said to her? if she's hot or whatever then she really has no reason to reply

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    Default Re: What should I do when she doesn't text me back?

    Interesting advice. I'm in a similar predicament and I might just have to use one of the examples given. Thanks

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    Default Re: What should I do when she doesn't text me back?

    this site needs better advice. There are novices just talking pure shit and people are taking it as gospel.

    Every time I read a post most of the responses are ludicrous. I don't even have the energy or motivation to explain everything. The game is simple. Do Less and you win.

    Shortandgoofy: If a girl doesn't text you back you didn't build enough attraction on the initial meet. If you did build enough attraction you can text her " hey my foot hurts" or "I eat blueberries" and she will respond back. Txting is irrelevant to success.

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    Default Re: What should I do when she doesn't text me back?

    @inter1010... most responses were suggestions other users had. No one said their words were unequivocally correct. No need to call out others who are just offering their opinion on what worked for them.

    And btw, you might want to check out the texting guides on here. Give texting a shot. You may be surprised at what texting can be good for.
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    Default Re: What should I do when she doesn't text me back?

    this site needs better advice. There are novices just talking pure sh1t and people are taking it as gospel.
    this is a prime example of it, if you're awesome in real life and you're a bore over texts, she will sense an inconsistency, if she's higher class she'll snob you, that's why people read the texting guides to improve their texting and why i said "hey, wassup?" is boring


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