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Thread: HB 8.5 flaking on tonight

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    Default HB 8.5 flaking on tonight

    Met a HB 8.5 on POF, number closed the same day. Took her to lunch yesterday (she works right by my office)... Seemed to go great. IOIs, playing w/ her hair / flipping it around, etc.

    As we are walking back, she hints that she is free sat evening (tonight). I tell her I had plans most of the day but would see if timing would work out. Walk her to the lobby of her building, get hug and kiss on the cheek, she says see you tomorrow . Text back and forth until about 9 pm.... Things seem good.

    Then today, it went like this...

    Me 12:09 - I've got an awesome idea for this evening, just need to figure out logistics

    HB 12:10 - I might have to pass, I've got to be up super early tomorrow for my flight

    Me 12:16 - you turning into a pumpkin before 8?

    HB 12:20 - probably close to it, I need to be up by 4:30 tomorrow. And I haven't finished cleaning the house yet.

    Me 12:26 - ouch, that's early

    She was replying quickly but nothing since my last text. The cleaning the house excuse doesn't seem to fit as to why she couldn't go out.... The other stuff she did mention yesterday.

    Any way I can recover this? I want to see her today but not look needy and she is flying out of town for a week. Wanted to keep me momentum going and work at least a k-close. Worried it will just fizzle out this week.

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    Default Re: HB 8.5 flaking on tonight

    You could just say you won't be out very long, plan to go out earlier, or just plan for another day

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    Default Re: HB 8.5 flaking on tonight

    Sounds legit to me man. I also like to leave with a clean house so that I can come back to one. Think about it if shes catching a flight, especially that early, she has to pack all her stuff (for a girl this takes forever!!) clean up make arrangements etc. I honestly think shes probably for real about this. I would back off and let her text you next. Just see her when she gets back. If you push too hard right now you will come off needy. If she doesn't text within 3 days of getting back from her trip then I would send out a feeler text.

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    Default Re: HB 8.5 flaking on tonight

    Quote Originally Posted by Flyboy86 View Post
    Sounds legit to me man. I also like to leave with a clean house so that I can come back to one. Think about it if shes catching a flight, especially that early, she has to pack all her stuff (for a girl this takes forever!!) clean up make arrangements etc. I honestly think shes probably for real about this. I would back off and let her text you next. Just see her when she gets back. If you push too hard right now you will come off needy. If she doesn't text within 3 days of getting back from her trip then I would send out a feeler text.
    Yeah, the last thing I want to do is push too hard, especially since I just met her. I haven't invested much into her so it wouldn't be that big of a deal, but she seems real cool and is not hard on the eyes either!

    I ended up waiting a few hours, sending a text totally unrelated (about a college b-ball game that her team was playing well in) and got good responses.

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    Default Re: HB 8.5 flaking on tonight

    Good man!! Yea keep it casual, try not to text her much while she is gone unless she initiates it. The problem with texts is that if you escalate nicely and it feels like its on you can't make the next move cause shes out of town. So if you do chat with her a bit while shes gone make it real chill and make sure you are the one that stops the conversation. Don't be afraid to just not respond until the next day or even at all for that matter. Girls do that crap to guys all the time. When shes back set up a date. But like I said do it when shes back, if you do it while shes gone she will have all that time to question it and flake. From my experience the odds of the date happening increase alot the closer to the actual day of the date. Ex:

    day of, "what are you doing?"

    her- "nothing"

    You - "get dressed im picking you up for X" (something casual and chill more of a hang out)

    and boom you see her 30 min later

    as opposed to:

    "Lets go out next thursday after you get back"

    her - "ok"

    ...dead space...awkward talk...
    ...waiting for thursday....
    ...yawn....

    It certainly can be done that way but I like to preserve spontaneity by setting up just a day or 2 in advance (or day of), but like I said thats just my style, and it can be done a week in advance she just has to really be into you!

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    Default Re: HB 8.5 flaking on tonight

    Dang this is hard, not gonna lie... ~24 hrs since her last text and I shot a random one last evening. I'm trying to go NC until she responds.

    I know she's down in Miami seeing friends today and then the rest of the week for work, but... stupid oneitis!


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