This is my first post here and it's a cry for help from my brothers in arms. I am having a rough time closing a woman.
This woman is an exotic dancer, I recently met her in the place in which she works and we hit it off really fast. Since that first time we met I have been in a few times and she always gravitates towards me.
The first meeting she was seemingly completely awestruck and the IOI's were involuntary and flowing like water through a sieve.
After that the next few times I have been in there it has been strange: She seems to go in and out of business mode and really really seems like sometimes she is fighting the urge to keep her hands off of me and other times she tries to re-establish the business/client boundaries.
She told me the first time I met her that she had a boyfriend and it didn't phase me. So I honestly think there are multiple factors weighing in here. I think she is very attracted to me and it trying to fight her urges out of respect for her boyfriend by trying to keep it professional.
She'll come sit with me and do all the subconscious IOI's like preening and she dotes over me. She gets a little agitated if other women are around me and she focuses intently on watching me & the other girl even if she is on stage performing she'll glance over every couple of seconds to see whats up.
She goes through these stages where she will kiss me on the cheek every couple of seconds and throw in a bite or two on the neck, lingers and smells my cologne. Then she'll all of a sudden realize what she's doing and the hands come off and she'll kinda sit on them or try to find some way to anchor them in her lap. Then she'll slowly go back to grooming me and doing these subconscious things.
I just honestly feel that she is really torn between her man and taking the plunge with me. And I have been trying to be cool about it. I know I have definitely made some mistakes here and I think I may need to try and negate them somehow. (Like showing too much interest, going from AMOG to hitch hiker, being too aloof & other things) And I don't know if I can salvage it.
So. Quite frankly I am at a loss. I do not know how to proceed, how to close the deal. Or anything. Some of you suave and tuned in PUA's please throw me a lifeline!