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    Hey guys, Banko here. I feel some sort of way right now. Frustrated and annoyed. Simply put, I want to kick my roommate's ass lol. I guess I can say he is better looking then me (I'm not ugly, not a model either) but doesn't really have to work for it like I do. I noticed that he has severe approach anxiety and will never approach a girl unless I do it. I always approach the women, groups, single, etc. And I do a good job with pick up afterwards. But I feel he likes to hit on the girls I bring and also hit on girls he knows I have history with or feelings for. It's mad annoying. But any way there was this girl who I was kinda talking to. Had drinks with her one night with another friend and I wasn't as usually aggressive as I am. But she's cool and I told her to come to my party. Already telling my friend I like her we party and she comes. He kisses her on the neck, she walks off. I make out with her, she walks off and then they kiss in his room. I walk in, she apologizes and says we're just friends and in my head I'm like "please don't make a big deal out of it...shut up please lol"... I guess that main thing that hurts is my pride, it was a public embarrassment to me actually. I was more pissed that she made a big deal out of it when in truth I get over girls quick as hell. But she's texting my other friend who actually is the peacemaker and the advice giver about who to chose. Man, should I care or just keeping it moving ?

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    Default Re: Humiliation of A Public We're Just Friends

    You seriously need a better friend/roommate. He is disrespecting you directly and leeching off of your game. His looks will only get him so far, yes, but how far does that mean? You don't want women finding out they're not interested AFTER something as already happened with him.

    If this is a pattern then simply stop hanging out with him. If you want to bring someone back to your place then not only do you let him know that he needs to lay off, but that there will be consequences.
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    Default Re: Humiliation of A Public We're Just Friends

    Quote Originally Posted by Banko View Post
    Hey guys, Banko here. I feel some sort of way right now. Frustrated and annoyed. Simply put, I want to kick my roommate's ass lol. I guess I can say he is better looking then me (I'm not ugly, not a model either) but doesn't really have to work for it like I do. I noticed that he has severe approach anxiety and will never approach a girl unless I do it. I always approach the women, groups, single, etc. And I do a good job with pick up afterwards. But I feel he likes to hit on the girls I bring and also hit on girls he knows I have history with or feelings for. It's mad annoying. But any way there was this girl who I was kinda talking to. Had drinks with her one night with another friend and I wasn't as usually aggressive as I am. But she's cool and I told her to come to my party. Already telling my friend I like her we party and she comes. He kisses her on the neck, she walks off. I make out with her, she walks off and then they kiss in his room. I walk in, she apologizes and says we're just friends and in my head I'm like "please don't make a big deal out of it...shut up please lol"... I guess that main thing that hurts is my pride, it was a public embarrassment to me actually. I was more pissed that she made a big deal out of it when in truth I get over girls quick as hell. But she's texting my other friend who actually is the peacemaker and the advice giver about who to chose. Man, should I care or just keeping it moving ?
    I would give your roommate a good ass kicking. If you told him you're going for this girl and he steals it, he deserves to have his nose broken.

    Also, in the future, avoid bringing girls around him because he kind of sounds like a scumbag

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    Default Re: Humiliation of A Public We're Just Friends

    Thanks for the advice guys, I consider the guy one of my best friends man I do. But I really think he's selfish as hell. He's actually having all the girls and the attention happen at the same time and I think it's going to his head. I actually teach him pick up and whatnot. I'm not a expert but I spread what I learn from you guys that struggle with girls. He's actually a good guy trying to be a douche while I'm a douche trying to be a nicer guy lol. But should I ever worry about the girl?

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    Default Re: Humiliation of A Public We're Just Friends

    Drop him, that's no friend and he is certainly NO WINGMAN. A wingman helps his buddies make the play, not provide another obstacle. Anyone who goes after a girl that you already have feelings for without your permission is not worth keeping as a friend. IMO. Try to shake it off (I know its tough when you have feelings for them) and get back out there with other girls and more importantly a REAL wingman!

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    Agreed with all of the above. This guy is just a needy nobody who needs to leech off of other people in order to be successful. Eventually, his neediness will be the demise of him.

    Although I do strongly agree with everything above, I would like to throw in another input. The reason he is taking women from you is because he believes himself superior to you. He knows that because of his looks, he can pull women off of you. He also knows that from past actions, you won't do anything bad to him, because he knows he's an alpha male, and the betas don't try to keep from the alpha what the alpha wants.

    The best way to deal with this is to not try to maintain the woman's attention. Your best option is to actually shift your attention to your roommate. Talk to him, get him really conversing. Let his true colors come out in front of her while dropping subtle DHV's about yourself and DLV's about him. This has the effect of showing her that although your roommate thinks he's hot stuff, you are the actual alpha male, and you are superior to him in every which way.

    On a joking side, If you really want to get even with him, start giving him bad advice. Give him stupid rookie mistakes as if they were expert options, and give him some really terrible conversation starters, negs, and openers for him to work with. It's almost like spitting in your food after you have been sick and after your roommate keeps eating it without your permission, and then finally telling him after he does it again and is already throwing up all over the place.

    D1ck move on your part, but what goes around comes around.
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    Default Re: Humiliation of A Public We're Just Friends

    Lol thanks for the advice ya'll really. I actually told my roommate that he pissed me off last night and I still wanted to go outside and have a man to man boxing match lol but I told him I don't feel comfortable having him as a wing man. I just mainly feel disrespected. And yeah I might stop giving him pick up advice. And the girl actually asked me and him if we wanted to go to her house and watch Walking Dead. -__- (She knows we're broke and can't pay our cable bill lol).

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    Default Re: Humiliation of A Public We're Just Friends

    Slutty girl, shitty friend. You really don't need either in your life. That doesn't mean making a big deal about it. Obviously, you'll never talk to the girl again because you have respect for yourself. As far as your roommate goes, be friendly, but I wouldn't hang out with him or talk to him at all unless he talks to you.

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    Default Re: Humiliation of A Public We're Just Friends

    AMOG and keep him on a leash. Ever since I was in pick up, a lot of old friends didn't like it when I was going out and slowly becoming the man. I became ultra cocky and rude (well I was just speaking my mind) then told them not to disrespect me because I do what I please and that I have an unlimited amount of options to whom I want to spend my free time with. It set them in line because they know I can be the good guy or the bad guy very easily and they know I am the alpha male who gets his way.

    The way I would deal with your room mate would be to teach him some stuff or encourage him to make approaches because if he is this superior being that he likes to think he is then this should be a walk in the park for him. If he can't do it, ask him what's wrong and that's when the insecurities come out. When they are out and he looks defeated then attempt to give him some help, you will get respect for it and it will be your stamp of authority.

    Good luck mate but if someone is not giving you something you're going to have to change that.
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    Default Re: Humiliation of A Public We're Just Friends

    I have had several friends that were like this, bottom line is sometimes you can make them look better, and if they are trying to talk you up and DHV for you that can easily work against you too if done even slightly incorrectly.

    Truth is for the most part you either don't game around them or just deal with choosing from their leftovers.

    For the most part my CLOSE friends have always supported me, we have had our pissing contests though, usually it ends in a "draw".
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