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    Default Signals from a friend's girl?

    So some backstory - I met this dude through a friend about a year ago and we've gotten really tight. Many of the times I see him he'll be with his cute girlfriend...At least I think they're still together. They dated for a few years then were on-again-off-again. Their Facebook profiles say they're single, but I know they still fuck sometimes. It's really weird and confusing.

    Anyway, this girl pays a lot of attention to me, and it makes me a bit uncomfortable. First off, ever since I met her she's liked or commented on almost everything I post on Facebook. When we hang out as a group she'll spend a lot of time with me (One time when they were in an "off" period she stuck by my side the entire night). Another time we were at a club and our group of 8 or so people went outside, but when I decided to stay in she stayed, too.

    This weekend we hung out at her place and there was her, myself, the friend, and 3 other guys. She was talking to me a lot, showing me a lot of stuff around her apartment, wanting to touch my hands or high five, etc. It reminded me a lot of the ways a guy will act needy to try and impress a girl. When I was walking there she even waited outside to greet me and have a smoke before we went in. And again, if the other guys veered off she'd stay with me.

    What's your take on this? I can't tell if she's just being overly friendly or if she's hitting on me. I'm also a big believer in bro's before ho's, and while she's really cute I don't want to cause drama or fuck things up with my friend. Thoughts?

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    Looks like IoI's to me but it all comes down to you. Because we can all tell when a girl is actually interested in you, if she's got those flaring eyes when you talk to her, then yeah she is. Anyways, it comes down to you, weither you want something out of this or not, you can ask your friend if their cool and all and see what's up to not break any relationship or what not.

    Personally I wouldn't touch an Ex of my friends, unless he really didn't give a sh*t about her. For me acting up on a friend's Ex is disrespectful same goes for taking friends targets.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ablindman9 View Post
    Looks like IoI's to me but it all comes down to you. Because we can all tell when a girl is actually interested in you, if she's got those flaring eyes when you talk to her, then yeah she is. Anyways, it comes down to you, weither you want something out of this or not, you can ask your friend if their cool and all and see what's up to not break any relationship or what not.

    Personally I wouldn't touch an Ex of my friends, unless he really didn't give a sh*t about her. For me acting up on a friend's Ex is disrespectful same goes for taking friends targets.
    Yeah, that's exactly what I'm thinking. I've had friends go after exes before and it's a shitty feeling. The hard part is if I'm around both of them and she does this stuff I end up trying to casually ignore her or push her away.....Which is the same as being cool and aloof. It's strange how the stuff that would repulse a guy ends up being the stuff that attracts women.

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    I think it's safe to say she's interested. What's not so safe to say is what you should do about it lol.

    You could just outright reject her. "You're my friends ex! It ain't happening!" But then it could backfire and she would chase you more. So win-win I guess. Definitely find out how your friend feels about it. She ain't worth the drama.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    I think it's safe to say she's interested. What's not so safe to say is what you should do about it lol.

    You could just outright reject her. "You're my friends ex! It ain't happening!" But then it could backfire and she would chase you more. So win-win I guess. Definitely find out how your friend feels about it. She ain't worth the drama.
    Yeah, definitely. We never talk or see each other unless the friend is around, so it's not like she's going out of her way to contact me behind his back. But there does seem to be some flirty IOI's. She's really cute but I don't want to risk ruining a great friendship with her guy and potentially losing all the other friends I've met through them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lex S View Post
    Yeah, definitely. We never talk or see each other unless the friend is around, so it's not like she's going out of her way to contact me behind his back. But there does seem to be some flirty IOI's. She's really cute but I don't want to risk ruining a great friendship with her guy and potentially losing all the other friends I've met through them.

    I would watch the escalation. Like you said, she isn't going out of her way just yet. Once that happens you'll have to make a choice about bringing it up to your friend. And you don't want to keep ignoring it until it's too late...and she jumps on you lol. No, but really just pay attention to if it escalates or not.
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    Default Re: Signals from a friend's girl?

    Its possible she's using you to try and mess with him. Thoughts for food...
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    Default Re: Signals from a friend's girl?

    Bro Code #150 No Sex With Your Bro's ex.
    It is never, ever permissible for a Bro to sleep with his Bro's ex. Violating this code is worse than killing a Bro.

    Amendment I ; A Bro is entitled to have sex with his Bro's ex if she initiates it, she is really hot , or his Bro is out of town or in a different room.


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