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Thread: I need help! Ive known this girl for a while but im in the friend zone.

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    Default I need help! Ive known this girl for a while but im in the friend zone.

    I've known this girl for about 2.5 years we were once together for about a year in the beginning then we broke up due to my bad choices(basically cheating) and she got with a fallback guy. its completely in the past tho and about a month ago they broke up and she contacted me. She told me how much she appreciated me always being around even when it wasnt for me (which i was we would talk like once a month always a great convo).About 3 weeks ago and she started showing alot of interest when before that, i wasn't showing much and that roped me in. She told me how she always loved me and made countless hints that she wanted to get back together eventually if it was possible. I've always loved her but i had let her go but when she showed her availability again i was hooked. Then alot of things started happening in her family and i was there as a comforter(bad move)all those subtle hints stopped and she told me she loves so much but she just wants to be friends i told her im not one of her gfs i cant give that to her she said she understood and i haven't talk to her in about 3 days.

    What do i do! I definatly want her, how do i get out of the friendzone and rebuild the attraction i need steps. whats the BEST thing i can do, Do i freeze out?
    I currently talk to multiple females but just as a distraction

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    Default Re: I need help! Ive known this girl for a while but im in the friend zone.

    My suggestion is to stop talking about getting back together and start talking about all the fun things you are going to do and she should come along. Make it one of those "it just happened" kind of things.

    Whenever she talks about you two, just bounce it off like "This isn't a date. We are just hanging out" roughly speaking. Don't acknowledge your intentions and keep escalating like nothing is going to happen.....until it does. Focus on changing her mood, not her mind.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: I need help! Ive known this girl for a while but im in the friend zone.

    Do i be a close friend in all of this or do i back off a bit? Because i currently am leaving it up to her when we talk i don't text or call her. And in her mind she thinks shes giving me space. Also what i think is shes lost interest because our last convo which is the same one i told her im not one of her gfs, she said "deep down in my heart i don't think im the one for you but hopefully if it happens it happens"...which was new shes never said it before all of the family things happened

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    Default Re: I need help! Ive known this girl for a while but im in the friend zone.

    Far too many unknown details to make that call. I doubt you could get in the friend zone so easily. If you have unfinished business then she likely won't put you there. If she's talking about other guys then it's a bad sign.

    Just focus on being a mystery. Don't let her know what your thinking. If you say one thing, then say the opposite. The mixed signals will build tension and she'll want it resolved. And she may begin to chase you in order to do it. This is just a rough guess though. Take it with a grain of salt.
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    Default Re: I need help! Ive known this girl for a while but im in the friend zone.

    Yea definitely. But yea she did say specifically "where just friends that's all i can give you 'right now' i don't know if it will ever be more."
    Definitely hard to figure out those mixed signals.
    And no, no other guys are in the picture.
    Besides the one she was talking to after me but he just got married so hes not a threat.


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