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    Question How to handle The do you love me question?

    Hi Need some advice here,
    I've been dating my gf for about a month
    I have to admit it's going great she invited me to a spa after her parents didn't want to use their anniversary gift.
    the day after she invited me to meet her parents and the following day after that she invited me to sleep in her parents house.

    we spent 5 days together traveling a little eating out and buying cloths, she bought me a few items I only paid for some food.

    she is always testing me especially about marriage and kids and commitment stuff, and she said she likes the fact It doesn't make me nervous.
    which by her terms means i'm mature even though i'm younger by 2 years.

    well today in bed after we slept together and had dinner she asked me if i'm waitung for her to say she loves me (which of course I do) even though i'm not sure How am I feeling yet.

    I changed the subject and she raised it again and I said I just i'm trying to enjoy the relationship without forcing anything
    she went quiet and then said she is having a lot of fun with me.

    How can I make her make the first move any suggestions ?

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    Default Re: How to handle The do you love me question?

    If she's dropping hints, then it's totally OK to tell her first.


    But if you're not sure, then be honest about it.

    And if you're thinking that things are going well & you're beginning to feel "love" then tell her that too....(If this is something you're truly thinking could possibly be a long-term relationship)

    Don't play the "aloof" card & don't ignore the question when it comes up.

    However, if you've only been with a girl for a couple days & she starts talking about being in love, then run!!


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    Default Re: How to handle The do you love me question?

    Yeah honesty is definitely the best policy here, Iv only ever told one girl I loved her but when I did it was pretty much the same situation as you have here, she was hinting being like 'Iv wana say something to you but don't know if I should' it was obv what she was talking about and I felt it to so I said it, she said it back and all was good
    So if you feel it and she's hinting like that don't be afraid to say it, don't say it flippantly though, make it a moment she'll remember

    Linking x

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    Default Re: How to handle The do you love me question?

    I agree with all of the above. Don't hold her out on what she wants to hear. She will only get annoyed and whether you do love her or not will not matter. She will just dump you anyways.

    Be careful, though. I made a really terrible choice in my last relationship. I told my girlfriend that I loved her, EVERY SINGLE DAY for about six months. She didn't mind though, she thought that we had something special because I was the one guy that was nice to her. When I finally realized that I had only gotten into a relationship with her because I was so sick and tired of getting rejected all the time, I was stuck in a really big pickle that crashed and burned violently.

    So before you do anything else, you should seriously sit down, figure out what kind of person you are, and figure out what kind of girl you want. If she falls into what you are looking for, then you got a winner. If not, then you need to reconsider the relationship you are in right now before you do anything really stupid.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: How to handle The do you love me question?

    Here’s how it works. If she asks you a tough question,
    don’t miss a beat – respond with the answer she wants to
    hear. Then throw in a slapstick comedy line.
    She asks: “Do you love me?”
    You answer: “Of course... as a friend.”

    She asks: “Where were you last night? I called.”
    You answer: “I was home thinking about you... but
    since you didn’t call early enough, I went out and hired
    ten strippers.”
    Make sure you don’t act busted or nervous and it will
    work for you, too. Remember, women can take hints very
    well, and if they think that there’s an answer that they
    don’t want to hear, they’ll give up and stop asking.

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    Default Re: How to handle The do you love me question?

    I would never say, "Of course... As a friend."

    Are you trying to completely destroy your frame? Answering honestly is the correct answer. Although, I've had to prevent myself from responding to this thread with the following response:

    Just look her in the eyes and say, "Bitch please!"
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: How to handle The do you love me question?

    Update
    I saw my girl yesterday I was a bit sick she didn't care and wanted to sleep in the same bed.
    I think my girl is falling for me, she did some things in bed, she said she doesn't agree to and liked it.
    and after some happy hour.

    she said she likes me a lot and that she feels so alone every time I go home. and that she misses me when i'm in another room,
    she said she wants to merge with me.

    well I'm going back to the love question, how do I make her make the first move?

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    Default Re: How to handle The do you love me question?

    Either say it yourself or put it out of your mind. She'll say it when she's ready just like you.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."


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