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    Default Mixed messages from first date. Help!

    Hey experts

    Went on a date last night with this gorgeous girl I met online. We sat in this lounge-like bar room and had a couple of beers. For 90% of the date, I was getting bad vibes from her, as if she was uninterested. She sat with her legs crossed and kept a good 2 feet distance from me on the booth. She overall seemed uninterested in me. I managed to make her laugh a few times, tried to initiate kino escalation (ie "hey let me get a closer look at your ring" and taking her hand). She never resisted these "moves". i made plenty of mistakes in the date (sometimes talking too much, qualifying myself, apologizing for being wrong on a conversation point) Towards the end of the date she seemed to be warming up to me a bit, was smiling a bit more, and agreed to have another drink with me before we left (even when she had to be up early in the AM). Before we left she said she had a good time with me, hugged me and kissed me on the cheek. I even went infor a kiss, she didn't object, but when I tried to kiss a 2nd time she smiled and turned away and said she just met me. I said we should hang out again, she said "you have my number".

    So I'm confused. The date seems to be lame for most of it, she's reserved, cold, bad body language that indicates lack of interest, but we end on a high note. Shoul I text or call to set up a 2nd date, or was it just the 2 beers we had that made this happen?

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    Default Re: Mixed messages from first date. Help!

    Don't go for another meet-up just yet.

    Use texting as a way to flirt with her & build a little more attraction & anticipation first.

    Get her having fun & interacting with you consistently so that she feels the urge to go out again.

    THEN, go for the met-up.



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    Default Re: Mixed messages from first date. Help!

    Quote Originally Posted by T-Mal View Post
    Don't go for another meet-up just yet.

    Use texting as a way to flirt with her & build a little more attraction & anticipation first.

    Get her having fun & interacting with you consistently so that she feels the urge to go out again.

    THEN, go for the met-up.


    Good idea build up that foundation.

    I sort of do some thing backwards(as I describe it) to build comfort heavily initially...instead of praying you can get them on a date and do that song and dance. Alot of the methods suggest(by the situation) to grab the number and force your way with game when you meet them. Why not do that initially and build up so they know what kind of guy you are? I often like to game and get to know them(for my own purposes) and have them get to know me..that way getting their number and going on a date is "no big deal"..as they are way comfortable with me pre-hand. I've done this meeting girls and its always smooth, non-distant, and easy to be around them and to progress. Although make sure you are working your techniques and not just merely talking friendly with them and keeping things light otherwise ull end up in the friends zone, distinguish your stance.

    However such approach could only work in a campus or common meet situation where you see them more than once.

    One reason I like texting as well, If you can get the number quickly, before asking them out, text a bit, maybe even get over to calling them that way when you do meet up things wont seem awkward and distant.

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    Default Re: Mixed messages from first date. Help!

    Thanks for the advice. Any recommendations on how I should text her? Should I say I had a good time, etc?


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