Hi everyone, I'll start with a bit of an introduction. I first read The Game about four or five months ago, and since then have read and reread a few books and made an effort to go out more. I've also read this forum a bit for advice for my problem but thought I'd ask you guys as well, anyway...
I met this girl two weeks ago at a friend's house, she seemed cool and attractive. I wasnt talking to her much though cos it was obvious my friend wanted her. Also I could only stay for an hour.
Anyway, that seems to have backfired cos she just seemed more interested in me, she made sure to add me on Facebook, we had a nice chat on there but I forgot about her and moved on.
Two weeks later, it hasn't worked out with her and my friend and shes messaging me at 1am on my birthday, asking what I'm doing and can she come see me to celebrate, if not, maybe on the weekend. She also told me some other stuff about a drum kit for sale she mentioned before not being there anymore [I had forgotten and didn't care anyway] blah blah.
Anyway so I took this as a massive IOI, replied the next day, and then we got talking for most of the night after my birthday.
it was crazy, everything i learnt was coming out, she was already attracted to me, and had heard good things about me. and I was just teasing her and saying and doing things I'd never done before, it was all so natural though. I got her number and arranged something for the weekend and carried on chatting to her.
The next day was valentines day, things were moving so quick we forgot about our weekend plans and she invited me round just to meet up and smoke weed after work, we'd both had a bit of a stressful day.
But just before I left she was like "uh actually im not sure how about tommorow?" and "are you a gentleman?"
So I knew this was her ASD acting up and knew what she meant I said yeah of course I am, and she wanted to meet up again.
Anyway we had another nice night chatting away, it went really well, she even brought a sketch book of her artwork to show me. She was playing with her hair and complimenting me as well as liking the things I like.
Towards the end of the night we were still laughing and having fun [she even told me she loved it when I said I brought her some of the best most expensive chocolate around, before showing her the cheapest bar of tesco value milk chocolate you can find]
but the thing she had said earlier about being a gentleman really threw me. I didn't make a move, touch her or anything, [apart from briefly touching her fingers to grab a joint from her and a hug good night]. We were in a car, but I'm not sure thats a good reason not to touch her.
So I'm worried I've managed to get a girl really attracted to me only to friend zone myself by chatting so long, not making a move, and demonstrating some low value by driving forty miles just to see her for 3 hours.
This was last night, I haven't spoken to her at all today, just pondering my next move, and arranging going out tonight to get her out of my mind.
So my question is
do you think I can still salvage this next time I see her?
and if so how?
I've had this problem with another girl in the past as well, conversation is great but failed to touch her and move it forward.
haha thanks for reading and whatever advice you may have.