Top 10 Stats
Latest Posts Loading... Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Results 1 to 6 of 6
Like Tree1Likes
  • 1 Post By SonnyCurtis

Thread: Help with a girl who has a bf

  1. #1
    scguitar is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 1,301, Level: 21
    Level completed: 1%, Points required for next Level: 99
    Overall activity: 3.6%
    Achievements:
    1000 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Posts
    180
    Points
    1,301
    Level
    21
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    66

    Default Help with a girl who has a bf

    Ok, so I run a political club, and this girl who I met through a mutual friend is also one of the heads of the club. I'm not that great of friends with her, but we do talk when at the club meetings, which is once a week and about the only time I see her. For all I know, I could be friend zoned by now (most likely). And as the title says, she has a bf.

    Anyway, yesterday, I decided to turn my game up a little (for some practice) and see what I could do. I had her laughing quite a bit. She was supposed to be running the meeting, but when people got too loud, I stepped in and took control of things (me trying to demonstrate authority and being alpha). She showed me like a Valentines day joke on her phone, and I said something like "Wait, weren't you supposed to give me a gift? Why didn't I get it? what happened?" She laughed at that.

    If you want to know about my body language, I don't know because I didn't pay much attention to it. I think I didn't have eye contact all the time. Something I should definitely work on. Also, since it's a small room with a bunch of people, and we're sitting down (although we were next to each other) I didn't do kino escalation.

    I'm not getting oneitus with this girl because I know it's a long shot that I never really tried to escalate anything for MONTHS and she has a bf.

    So what do y'all think? Think I can build something from this? Oh, one more thing. She's not good at texting. Even if I send her like a general thing about club stuff, she only responds like half the time.

  2. #2
    Vicodin24's Avatar
    Vicodin24 is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 2,424, Level: 29
    Level completed: 83%, Points required for next Level: 26
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social1000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Location
    New York, NY
    Posts
    279
    Points
    2,424
    Level
    29
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    112

    Default Re: Help with a girl who has a bf

    Personally, I'm against gaming girls with boyfriends because of my own morals, ethics, and personal experience. It is possible, but be prepared to be there to pick up the pieces or you'll break one of the most important rules - leaving her better than you found her (as seen in my sig ).

    So, I've done this twice. F-closed one (A), morals kicked in with the second (B). I've noticed that it works only if the relationship is a little rocky - mainly if it's one sided. Here's how it went down:

    A
    She was in a really bad relationship with her man for almost two years. She wasn't sure whether or not they were still together because of all the arguments. He would constantly cheat and she did a few times, too. I simply said, "Wow, he must be the perfect guy if you're putting yourself through this and waiting for him for him this long." Yes, that's a "bf buster," but it's effective only because I had her comfortable around me and established enough rapport. Fair amount of social proof (I sat in between her and B in lecture and flirted with B while ignoring her), too, but that's another topic. Anyway, that got her to say how he's really not all that perfect and tell me more about their problems. I defended him (seems counter productive, but that's where the magic is) and we hooked up not too long after (December) and still have a fling since she's single now. Unfortunately, she looks to me for comfort and is pushing for a relationship. Oh, she's also in a really crappy position in life as of last month and is growing to be an emotional wreck. See why I don't recommend it?

    B
    This one was hell to work on because her bf was (is) very clingy and it took a while. Naturally, I defend him and say that it's hard to find guys that are so open with their girls about feelings and all that mushy stuff. I also said stuff about them getting married because he's the perfect husband. I also started acting like him (calling her baby, telling her I love her, etc) and she grew more comfortable with me. Weird, huh? It took months, but eventually she broke up with him and we hooked up. However, thanks to my lovely advice, she went back to him. Now, there's a lot of sexual tension between us and I'm stopping myself from going further even though I had and will have countless opportunities. Won't be too proud of myself if I looked in the mirror

    TLDR version - Drop it for both your sakes
    Always leave her better than you found her.

  3. #3
    blindman is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 51, Level: 1
    Level completed: 2%, Points required for next Level: 49
    Overall activity: 2.4%
    Join Date
    Feb 2013
    Posts
    1
    Points
    51
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: Help with a girl who has a bf

    One of the main differences between men and woman, is that women generally cannot distinguish between right and wrong.. Knowing what the right thing to do, and sticking to your principles, is a masculine trait.. So i would think that you should avoid gaming a chick with a bf, even if it is a oneitis.. It is only men who can stick to their principles..

    However, you should continue displaying your positive traits, of strength, enthusiasm and optimism.. If you have them imbibed, it would come to you naturally, rather than having to 'stage' or show them off...Chicks love guys who are , if nothing else, healthy.. meaning extrovert / outgoing./ out-door kind of person.. So , you should drop hints, or make folks ( and by extention) aware that of your weekend / outdoor activities, indicating you have a healthy personality as well..

    You present your best self, and let her make the decision of breaking up with her boyfriend or having an affair with you .. Women generally are unable to make a decision on their own, she might end up asking you to decide, in a subtle way..

  4. #4
    scguitar is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 1,301, Level: 21
    Level completed: 1%, Points required for next Level: 99
    Overall activity: 3.6%
    Achievements:
    1000 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Posts
    180
    Points
    1,301
    Level
    21
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    66

    Default Re: Help with a girl who has a bf

    Well, I don't know her boyfriend, therefore, I don't give a sh!t about him. Me and her have a lot in common because we have talked before, so it's not like I'm just trying to just bang her, which would be nice by the way.

    As I said before, It's not my number 1 priority because I know it's a bit of a long shot

  5. #5
    amazingJay is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 442, Level: 8
    Level completed: 84%, Points required for next Level: 8
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Posts
    21
    Points
    442
    Level
    8
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    23

    Default Re: Help with a girl who has a bf

    I don't mean to come off as a d!ck but you might want to look elsewhere for a relationship, sorry. Maybe befriend her for social proof, but don't try to steal her from her boyfriend at this point. From what you've described, you're game just doesn't sound tight enough to do that yet. There are plenty of girls out there, no need to get hung up on a long shot.

  6. #6
    SonnyCurtis is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 1,849, Level: 25
    Level completed: 49%, Points required for next Level: 51
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    1000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Posts
    195
    Points
    1,849
    Level
    25
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    86

    Default Re: Help with a girl who has a bf

    Agreed drop it. Focus on the positives - you got her laughing, you were laughing, hey that was fun right? That's genuine stuff man, just enjoy and appreciate that moment with her without expecting anything more. That's how she felt in that moment and I bet you she left thinking "gee scguitar is a really fun/cool guy". That's the vibe you need to give off to land a girl. Like blindman said about being an extrovert. She's not gonna bang you cus she's taken but other girls will wanna. Enjoy your time interacting with her and other girls, be in the moment, get comfortable with them. This will net you the best results. Get out of your head dude live life. It's right in front of you, I bet you can feel it.


Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DMCA.com