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    Default Damage limitation: Drunken phone call to HB8

    So I've been texting this girl for one week now. Met her through some friends a while back and figured I'd get some pick up practice in (I'm new to this art). We had a date arranged for this Monday which I'm pretty chuffed with.

    So the problem.. Last night whilst out with friends I proceeded to get very drunk. P1ssed as a fart drunk. And upon clawing my way out of bed this morning I noticed I had phoned this same girl at 2am. I have no idea of what may or not have been said but I don't want to seem emotionally invested or needy.

    Do I leave things as they are? I have not heard from her since. I fear I've ruined the date to come.

    Tl;dr : Phoned girl last night when drunk. How to recover and not seem needy?

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    Default Re: Damage limitation: Drunken phone call to HB8

    Well I managed to pull one out the bag and recover from this error..

    Luckily she was also quite drunk that night. At first I txted her a couple of days later saying that I had just noticed from my phone that I'd rang her (Refrained from saying sorry or making it seem like a big deal). I then turned this around and asked her what she was doing phoning ME at daft o'clock in the morning. We proceeded to joke about this playfully for a while as to who phoned who that night.

    Anyway we met up last night at a quiet little bar. The subject of who phoned who popped up now and again and I continued to neg her about this. The night whent very well.

    Lesson learned:
    DON'T phone one of your texting targets during a heavily drunken night out. No matter how much an AFC you might be at the time. If you don't trust yourself to be able do this then leave her number at home. Phoning her when drunk, when you're not on your form, will make you seem needy or just an unattractive mess (Particularly if she's sober).

    This is probably very obvious to most of you guys but to everyone else: don't make my mistake.

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    Default Re: Damage limitation: Drunken phone call to HB8


    This is probably very obvious to most of you guys but to everyone else: don't make my mistake.
    and yet everyone still does it

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    Default Re: Damage limitation: Drunken phone call to HB8

    Learn to be fun when you drink, or don't drink.

    There is a fine line when drinking. Some of the funniest things I've ever said have come out when I was drunk. And also, I have to admit that early on, my ability to communicate was so much easier because alcohol truly can be liquid courage.

    I drink maybe 2 or 3 times a month when I'm out. And maybe once a month, it probably is excessive. But, over time, I've just practiced and practiced to CONSTANTLY remind myself that when I text or call when drinking there are are few deadly sins can can put you in the creepy category VERY quickly

    BAD - Wanna hook up?
    GOOD - I'm drunky and need some attentionness. Pay some attentionness to me.

    BAD - I miss you. (my god, never get emotional when drinking)
    GOOD - Tell me you miss me. Wait. Show me instead.

    BAD - I'm horny.
    GOOD - I think I'm horny. Not sure yet. Ask me again in 5 minutes. Wait. yes I am. OMG you have to fix this.

    BAD - Hey. How are you?
    GOOD - Hey. I'm fine. Thanks for asking. I'm at the Hilton, room 204. Bring a slip-n-slide.

    So my point with all this is that, in the absence of humor, trying to game while drinking can immediately be a killer *** BECAUSE *** you are being raw, which usually means you are being emotional or horny, which ALWAYS puts a girl on the defensive by thinking you are either just out to screw her, or that you are a creepy basket-case.

    If you know that drinking is part of your daily life (which is fine as long as you don't always have to depend on it), then just practice introducing humor, and better yet, have 2 or 3 on-call girls that will give you the confidence (and put you in an abundance mindset) to just chill and be cool when you drink.

    Many people make the mistake of over-thinking and being overly agressive when they drink and that that is usually the reason for a blowout. Other guys are naturally fun and funny, and if you take all the drunk guys at 3am and select the ones who actually take girls home, it's because they were "fun."

    Repeat: Learn to be fun when you drink, or don't drink.
    - CR

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    Default Re: Damage limitation: Drunken phone call to HB8

    Quote Originally Posted by costarica View Post
    BAD - I miss you. (my god, never get emotional when drinking)
    GOOD - Tell me you miss me. Wait. Show me instead.
    I like this one.

    And I agree alcohol can sometimes make me emotional. Luckily the majority of the time I'm a fun person when I drink.

    Another sure way of staying fun when drinking: Start drinking in a happy mood and atmosphere. Never drink when you're down or frustrated. It just makes things worse!


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