Girls want a man with status, I get that. They want a guy who loves them and treats them better than any guy has treated her before. They want him to be physically attractive. They want to be the girl who's friends wish they were with her bf.
So here's the thing.. My reputation SUCKS.
I used to have a bad habit of smoking pot and playing video games, watching weird porn, sending weird messages to girls on facebook, being unemployed, spent about 6 years in social isolation. I have no real friends, I'm bent out of shape, and my social skills are terrible. Earlier than the pot smoking, I was the guy who caused trouble, hanging out with the wrong crowd, taking class a party drugs and getting arrested a bunch of times.
The most recent incident that people know about is a freaking stalking situation with my ex that fked with her life and is likely to still have repercussions to come. Big fking no-no. I was screwed up BAD. It's no excuse though, I shouldn't have said the sh1t I said to her, and I should have left her alone a LONG time before I did.
So, basically.. That's not the reputation a guy needs to be introduced to friends and family I'm thinking.
How do I get past that? If I have the great physique, dress nice, I learn to talk to people much better than I can, act right, really improve my life.. Are people going to forget about the past? Can I still learn to get the girls that all the guys want to date? Can I really put a past like that behind me?