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    D.M. Evans is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Completely Baffled - Need Help!

    Met this girl accidentally online, hit it off, and have been talking for about a month.

    We've had multiple phone conversations (5mins up to one for 90 mins on V-Day) and have opened up to one another quite bit. Conversation and laughter always flow. I get the "I've been thinking about you all day" texts here and there.

    I recently found out she was in a long (5+ years) abusive relationship that she recently got out of.

    I figured she had thick walls and her guard up but has told me multiple times how much she likes me, has a crush on me, etc.

    Also, she said she is very shy and tends to avoid situations that involve meeting new people. She always tells me how confident I come off and says that she doesn't know if she could ever meet up because I'm too confident and good looking and that intimidates her.

    But again, when we talk all of that goes away. I don't want to be pushy and have told her I would never want her to feel uncomfortable when we meet but I think there is something very special about this girl that I want to get to know. (I've told her that)

    Also to note, She lives about an hour away, doesn't have too many friends/stays in a lot, and I get the feeling she is a glass "half empty" girl.

    She says that every guy she talks to she winds up getting content and it never goes beyond "text buddies" She has said many times that I'm the only guy she has talked to that she really wants to meet and that if we didn't she would regret it completely.

    We are supposed to meet tomorrow night and she is driving to see me.


    I am so very lost at what to think and do, maybe I am not what she is used to and she doesn't know how to handle or react?

    Please Help,


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    Default Re: Completely Baffled - Need Help!

    Hi comrade!

    I love that kind of stories!

    First, if its a kind of "empty glass" girl, you should fill that glass with your humor, style and elegance!

    Make her feel secure, and comfortable should be your main goal, but also, u need to play no matter what, the surprise factor.
    Have a plan for that meeting. It's no time for lapsus or boring moments. Do something simple but effective.
    In that kind of situations, i like to have a good and long walk, talking, making jokes, and finish in a nice and quiet place, with a good view, and enough time for sit down, relax a bit, and keep enjoying the moment.
    Share with her things, be confident, alpha. She will think that that was the best night after her relation, then is yours!

    I will not recommend you on the first date, to stuck in a bar, coffe or pub, eventually u can go for a quick drink...but not more than that, go outside, enjoy the day/night, show all your vitality and energy!!!!!

    I'm not an expert, but with all my first date's, this works, and if i not K-close, at least y make everything ready for the next date!!!

    Good luck amigo!

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    D.M. Evans is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Completely Baffled - Need Help!

    CrazySpaniard,

    I'm actually afraid of being too alpha for her even though I feel I'm being normal. Humor and such is no problem for me.

    Its going to be a quicker meeting/first date I think. She is coming home from visiting family during the day and wants to stop by to meet me on her way home. I think the shorter (no more than 2 hours) the better, but I'll play it by ear.

    I might just be over-thinking it and it will go very well. I'll update ya'll tomorrow night.

    Thanks,

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    Default Re: Completely Baffled - Need Help!

    Bro, take a deep breath and relax
    Problem is that youve build up so much expectation that you're freaking out and nervous as hell.
    Go into the meet up with the thought of just getting to know her in person, and just go with the flow. If she's what you are looking for then great, if not then move on and find someone else.

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    D.M. Evans is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Completely Baffled - Need Help!

    So things went amazing the first time we hung out and after last thursday she wound up coming over to see me again on sunday and we spent the night together; cuddling, laughing.

    At the end of both nights she told me how she wanted to kiss me but when I went in she turned away and said she was too nervous. I know its no joke because she won't make eye contact, looks away when i look at her.

    Then later that night we'll be texting and she'll say how she wants me on top of her and can't wait for me to kiss all over her body.

    Needless to say, I'm lost. Can she really be that nervous? She does have social anxiety.

    Also, I've been getting the "I miss you" texts, "thinking about you" more frequently but last night she told me that if next time we hang out (this sunday) if she can't get over her anxiety and nervousness we shouldn't talk anymore.

    I called her bluff on that and she laughed and didn't say anything.

    Every time we talk though and the two times we've hung out it always gets better (her nerves). I think I just need to be a little more patient and good things will come.

    I've dealt with many girls and none have ever been this difficult or complicated. I love the challenge though and am really starting to feel something for this girl so it's worth it.

    Any advice on how to calm her nerves or do I just continue and stick it out?

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