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    Default Re: Avoid ONEITIS- Think abundance

    Quote Originally Posted by Fuser View Post
    Just a quick word for everyone in this game. Avoid oneitis. Be a man. No matter how tight your game is, sometimes you won't get the girl, and that's okay. NO WOMAN is worth getting obsessed over.

    If you want to be successful, think abundance. Right now, I bet any of you guys can approach at least 10 girls in a day. I am also willing to bet that you could sleep with at least 1 of those 10 girls if you wanted to. And I can also guarantee that doing that will be a hell of a lot more fun that trying to rescue this ONE AWESOME GIRL who was never that into you in the first place.

    So moral of the story, if you want to play to be good with women work on your inner game, confidence, and approaching and having fun with women.

    I have had pretty good success in the last few months following this theory. I practice strong inner game, I am confident in what I do. But hey, guess what? I still get rejected. I still get one word texts, and I still get ignored at times. It's okay, brush it off and on to the next one!

    Cheers guys.
    While I agree you never want to get to the point where you're obsessed with a single girl, people use Oneitis way too much and way too often. The treat it like this super contagious imaginary disease. It's like we're back in kindergarten trying not to get cooties.

    I'm just going to tell you ahead of time that if you stay in this long enough, eventually you are going to find a girl that is going to change things for you. You're going to meet her and you won't want to game anyone else. It's not obsession, it's infatuation. It's love, people. Almost every expert I've talked to has met girlfriends, their fiancé, even their wife through pickup. That's by far the best thing about pickup. You can have a kickass time when you're single and when you finally meet the girl of you dreams you can snatch her up.

    Enjoy, gentlemen.
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    Default Re: Avoid ONEITIS- Think abundance

    Awesome post Fuser. However Oneitis is one of the best things to work on that will help you improve your inner game. Sometimes you can get Oneitis and go AFC and sometimes you can get it and go Alpha and get out of it. I still struggle with it but am learning to play hard to get which helps me deal with it. Also if I start really focusing on another girl I will snap out of it and feel freed. I just practiced this concept recently and am starting to see my inner game go through the roof.

    So the key rule of thumb here is when you get too hung up on any one girl don't just go out hitting on other girls cuz that won't help. Get hung up on another girl your Oneitis should snap and then your inner game starts to climb to new heights.

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    Default Re: Avoid ONEITIS- Think abundance

    Quote Originally Posted by mackdaddyjon View Post
    So the key rule of thumb here is when you get too hung up on any one girl don't just go out hitting on other girls cuz that won't help. Get hung up on another girl your Oneitis should snap and then your inner game starts to climb to new heights.
    Why has nobody told me this key rule of thumb before?

    Good stuff
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    Default Re: Avoid ONEITIS- Think abundance

    Quote Originally Posted by SOUTH_FL_PUA View Post
    Why has nobody told me this key rule of thumb before?

    Good stuff
    LOL, Trial and error my friend. Some HB8 had a tattoo once that said "Never a failure always a lesson." I will never forget that and when I think I am losing confidence I just remember that when gaming HB's.

    Quote Originally Posted by Bandit View Post
    I'm just going to tell you ahead of time that if you stay in this long enough, eventually you are going to find a girl that is going to change things for you. You're going to meet her and you won't want to game anyone else. It's not obsession, it's infatuation. It's love, people. Almost every expert I've talked to has met girlfriends, their fiancé, even their wife through pickup. That's by far the best thing about pickup.
    Yeah nice point Bandit I think if we simply understand the difference between infatuation and obsession we would be far better off. We can be infatuated while remaining Alpha or we can be obsessed and go AFC. The difference between the two while make or break your inner game I think.

    One of my hardest rejections was a HB9 who worked in the Mall, I was obsessed with her for like a month and went in there all the time but just never tried to engage her just acted very weird. When I did finally talk to her it was always me trying to qualify myself by how much money I made last year, what I did for work, and when I asked for her number I was way too awkward! She said pretty much to drop dead and yelled one day when I said I would see her soon "I'm not interested at all!".

    This was not during my PUA days but AFC days and I couldn't sleep a lot of times and would be obsessing about her all day and stayed up till like 4am thinking about her. I remember after she rejected me like a week later I finally snapped out of it and my mind felt hijacked up till that point. When I finally felt free I literally felt like my mind had been in prison! Yeah obession is not healthy. However infatuation if used wrong could cause you to have countless sleepless nights, have no appetite, can't do your job because you are always thinking about her, etc.

    But infatuation if used right will only boost your inner game. This is something I am still learning but I think I am getting way better at it, probably just takes time since I still struggle with Oneitis at times. But that was definitely my worst case!


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