I could use some advice regarding the following.
I've been dating a sweet girl for like 4 months now.. She is 20 and I'm 23.. We were instantly attracted to each other and after a few dates we were already having sex.. Shortly after that she told me that she was falling in love with me, she said she didn't felt like this for a long time.. I responded to her that I was falling in love with her too..
On and on after that everything went so smoothly, we saw each other 2,3 times a week(had a lot of sex).. I met her parents and she met mine, so I started thinking this would be serious.
We went to a hotel 2 weeks back and things started to change, it went from all day contact to no contact at all.. and I started wondering what's wrong.. Yesterday we talked and she said to me that she was having genuine feelings towards me but that she couldn't be in a relationship with me right now.. She was dealing with this for like a month now.. I told her that we didn't have to rush things and just continue having fun with each other.. For me it didn't matter that much to be into a relationship as its just a word to me and it was not meaning more than we already were having.. She said to me that she was afraid that the feelings she now has would dissappear if we continue to hang on like this.. (GIRL code language) I don't really know what she means by it as she first is saying that she loves me and has genuine feelings towards me, but now she's telling me that she is afraid..
She was into a relationship with a guy for like 2 years, but that scene ended for like a year ago and I don't think that has anything to do with as she is not having contact with this guy..
Anyway she said she didn't want to give things up on me and she couldn't bear not seeing me again.. She wants to be still in contact with me and she believes that she will be more into it in the future.. But she didn't want to hang me on a leash..
Me I truly like this girl, I think she's great.. But I don't know how I should handle this situation though? How can I play my cards right with this girl? I'm thinking of her daily
Anyhow we both decided its best to not have contact for a short while and sit things out. I don't know what a short while will mean, but I decided that she should contact me first if she's truly interested..
Any help appreciated guys