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    bigcell is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default How to play my cards right on this one?

    Guys,

    I could use some advice regarding the following.
    I've been dating a sweet girl for like 4 months now.. She is 20 and I'm 23.. We were instantly attracted to each other and after a few dates we were already having sex.. Shortly after that she told me that she was falling in love with me, she said she didn't felt like this for a long time.. I responded to her that I was falling in love with her too..

    On and on after that everything went so smoothly, we saw each other 2,3 times a week(had a lot of sex).. I met her parents and she met mine, so I started thinking this would be serious.

    We went to a hotel 2 weeks back and things started to change, it went from all day contact to no contact at all.. and I started wondering what's wrong.. Yesterday we talked and she said to me that she was having genuine feelings towards me but that she couldn't be in a relationship with me right now.. She was dealing with this for like a month now.. I told her that we didn't have to rush things and just continue having fun with each other.. For me it didn't matter that much to be into a relationship as its just a word to me and it was not meaning more than we already were having.. She said to me that she was afraid that the feelings she now has would dissappear if we continue to hang on like this.. (GIRL code language) I don't really know what she means by it as she first is saying that she loves me and has genuine feelings towards me, but now she's telling me that she is afraid..

    She was into a relationship with a guy for like 2 years, but that scene ended for like a year ago and I don't think that has anything to do with as she is not having contact with this guy..

    Anyway she said she didn't want to give things up on me and she couldn't bear not seeing me again.. She wants to be still in contact with me and she believes that she will be more into it in the future.. But she didn't want to hang me on a leash..

    Me I truly like this girl, I think she's great.. But I don't know how I should handle this situation though? How can I play my cards right with this girl? I'm thinking of her daily

    Anyhow we both decided its best to not have contact for a short while and sit things out. I don't know what a short while will mean, but I decided that she should contact me first if she's truly interested..

    Any help appreciated guys

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    Default Re: How to play my cards right on this one?

    This is how it starts man, don't contact her. Let her contact you, maintain your control over the situation. If you go off and contact her all the time and whatnot you lose that control and seem needy. Just chill out, let it settle, go out and find other girls in the meantime. Chances are she'll be back, and if not, she wasn't worth it anyway. Right?
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    bigcell is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: How to play my cards right on this one?

    Quote Originally Posted by Thatoneguyonforums View Post
    This is how it starts man, don't contact her. Let her contact you, maintain your control over the situation. If you go off and contact her all the time and whatnot you lose that control and seem needy. Just chill out, let it settle, go out and find other girls in the meantime. Chances are she'll be back, and if not, she wasn't worth it anyway. Right?
    You're right man, its the only way I guess..

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    Default Re: How to play my cards right on this one?

    So she initiated contact again last week after a little more than 2 weeks. Asking me how I was doing etc. I just kept up my happy face and responded friendly to her. She said that she was a little uncomfortable in her skin etc. She was dealing with a couple of things I could tell. This weekend I went out with some guys and guess what, she was there too. She came to me and give me a kiss and a hug. (I just acted all cool and I was having a lot of fun with other girls that night) We went to another club and I saw her again, she again kissed me on the cheek and moved out with her girlfriends. After a while she returned and said she was going home, gave me another kiss etc. I said goodnight and gave her a kiss. Shortly after that she sended me a text message, saying: have fun sweety. I responded like 2 hours later when I got home with a kissing emoticon. Yesterday (day after going out) we didnt had contact the whole day, I also didnt care. But when I went to sleep last night, she sended me a text message with "goodnight". I just saw it when I woke up. How should I respond? maybe contact her tonight?

    Thanks guys


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