Long story short, guys...and I will be using some psychology techniques from the book; The Art of seduction
...... There is this girl who just broke up with her long term boyfriend ( she rebounded with a clingy guy and he is out of the picture)....she and I have a a long drawn out flirtation friendship type thing.
She is in a really emotional confused state and conflicted between staying single but feeling lonely. When she told me this (during lunch) I told her that "I feel that way sometimes too and in fact i really hate to say this but I feel I have to cut someone out of my life because I am not sure its going anywhere and it will hinder my pursuit of happiness". She asked if it was her.....I said yes because I like her more than a friend. she said "I know. But I cant right now. I am an emotional drained cripple right now."
Initially I took this as rejection and called it a night. A few hours hours later ( i kinda purposely let it marinate so she would feel the sting of me being out of her life) , I played it off like nothing happened and she was delighted to hear back from me and we joked and flirted.
Now its been a few days and my birthday passed ( she usually texts me every other day, and I know she knew my bday was coming up and I know she frequents my facebook page so she saw my wall blowup with birthday comments from people) and she has not texted, written on my facebook, and pretty much made it known she wasnt going to wish me a happy birthday.
So she is clearly pissed at me. she comes from a family that doesnt talk about their emotions, they usually hold things in until they lashout in anger, and hold grudges ( especially with her dad....some daddy issues of not feeling wanted/loved)....which it seems like she is doing now.
I am thinking I can use this to my advantage..... but not sure how to breach it. Should i go the caring route of "Hey is everything ok? I haven't heard from you in a while and have a feeling something is wrong"......or the more callous route like her dad and let her anger fester until she feels so abandoned that she comes crawling back with a text ......and when she does, what to say?...scold her for not texting like her dad would.....or show compassion and ask how she has been doing and feeling?
On a side note....i know I am making it seem like she is a totally emotional messed up person. HAHA.but she is usually really funny,happy, outgoing, and a very sweet girl....she just happens to be very emotionally sensitive and comes from a family that didnt nurture that.