Re: Trouble with humor
Lucky for you, I'm a humor writer, and I've been so for years now. I'll tell you straight up this very important piece of advice:
You can't make everyone laugh.
The same joke or technique may seem like it is invincible, but there is bound to be one girl that it does not work on for one reason or another. With this in mind, you shouldn't be overconfident about a joke, and you shouldn't suspect that a joke is a total failure when you tell it.
With that in mind, I will move on to the next step:
You must be very careful about your choice of words. One word can mean the difference between ticking someone off and making them laugh. It can also make a huge difference in how someone views you.
For example, let's look at these three statements:
1. "What the fudge was that?"
2. "What the hell was that?"
3. "What the f--- was that?"
All three of the above are the same phrase, but they all hold different reactions or meanings. I can tell you that #1 comes from my ex, and that was something that I severely hated about her. Everyone has their own preferences in words, but I can tell you that #2 would be a universal standard when it comes to this phrase.
The next thing is to be observant of things. It takes a great sense of imagination and a good observation of details in order to catch the funny things. Exaggeration, understatements, metaphors, similes, and other tools are extremely valuable. If you catch something about her physically, verbally, or so on that stands out, that is your opportunity to make a joke.
In the mean time, I would recommend just becoming more observant of current events and things around you. When you see them, pull them out and poke fun at it. That's the best way to work on your humor.
"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X