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    Default still no luck

    Im just a lil frustrated with this and i dont know why i get scared to talk to women. Im scared of looking weird, because most introverted people are like myself. Now a days as soon as you talk to a female she already knows you want her.I just need a new mindset of the game can someone help me out.?

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    Default Re: still no luck

    I remember those days lol. But don't worry buddy. Two things you can do.

    Accept the fact that women almost ALWAYS assume that you are hitting on them. Even if you are really not. They are just so used to it. If she is even mildly interested then this isn't such a bad thing for you. If she is not then you may want to go indirect.

    Indirect is when you don't make your interest apparent to her. This is where disqualifiers come in. They are great for alleviating any suspicions she may have about you hitting on her. Even if she still thinks you are interested, a disqualifier will confuse her. Also a good thing. So do your homework cause I've just given you a point to start and good luck.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: still no luck

    Quote Originally Posted by mangofreak7 View Post
    Im just a lil frustrated with this and i dont know why i get scared to talk to women. Im scared of looking weird, because most introverted people are like myself. Now a days as soon as you talk to a female she already knows you want her.I just need a new mindset of the game can someone help me out.?
    I am still getting over the fear of approach and what not so i'll give you some of my personal advice/mind set. First, what you have to realize is that it's not weird to talk to a girl, or anyone for that matter if your in a social situation that's conducive to this nature (like a bar, club, event, etc.). I have started using the mind set that if I am in a social situation it's actually MORE weird to be standing around with a drink in my hand looking like a biotch than talking to hot girls.

    Also, you have to realize that you WILL get rejected quite a bit when you first start, but that it's a natural phase. Like anything else you have to fail first. So if I am feeling like shit I sometimes go into a set with the intention of failing and become surprised that most girls WANT to talk to you and won't shoot you down immediately. Also when you intend to fail you can actually just have fun with it and say random $hit just to entertain your group or yourself.

    Third thing that helps me is that if I see a really cute girl that I want to get to know, i'd rather get REJECTED like a boss and know it would have never worked out, than wonder for the rest of my life and be filled with regret for not doing it. You can't play the game if your not in it, always remember that. And honestly getting rejected (especially kiss rejected) amps me up. It's a reminder that if you want the gold you have to be willing to play and potentially crash and burn to improve.

    Remember just to have fun. Take friends with you and have them give to the most ridiculous lines to say. Whatever works, you need to find it. No one else can help you do this but you. Buck up, put your ego aside and just do it, you won't regret it . I know I havn't yet.

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    Default Re: still no luck

    Talking to girls isn't weird. Assume attraction. Assume it's because you're awesome, and assume every dude around you envies the heck out of you because you're going up talking to a cute girl in the middle of the day and they aren't. What I do now is walk with my back straight, shoulders back, chest out, and head up, looking at every girl that walks by. If they look at me, I tell myself they want me and it's because I'm awesome. Create your reality man. They're guest in your reality. Keep thinking it and you'll start to believe it. Remember, motion creates emotion. You can control your emotion by your body language, facial expressions, etc.

    Own what you say. You don't need a special convo topic, Go into interview if you have to (not recommended though). If you think it's good enough, it'll be good enough.

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    Thanks guys good material i will treasure it and i will give you'll and update

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    Default Re: still no luck

    Make sure you're talking to everyone you come in contact with. The barista, waiter/waitress, say hi to the guy walking down the street, literally everyone. It will start to feel less weird.


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