Hey guys...I never really used the freeze out technique in the hopes of getting rid of one-itis and making a girl "miss me".
I was teetering on the friendzone ( i know she and I have always had an interest and tension between us....but she was getting from me what she wanted without having to deal withe the tension of sex and realtionships....she was with a boring bf who was boring and never seduced her)I built the proper rappport by being there for her but always dropping hints of sex and seduction in our conversations. ....so right now I am taking that away from her completely with a freeze out....this is how it all basically went down......
A week agoI brought her out of a huge emotional slump ( Sort of AFC,.,,,but we are friends, so i cant be a dick to her.....its not just some girl at a bar. i was alwasy really good at making her feel better and I would always use KINO....with gradual escalation) but have yet to k-close because she broke up with her BF a couple of months ago and I did not want to be the rebound guy.
After that particularly emotionally devastating day for her....I brought her back up to normal and feeling happy. And honestly....it was kind of a turn off hearing how emotionally hung up she is about some things (she doesnt miss her bf...but misses being in a relationship),, but i still do carefor her and like her.
I could tell that a few days later she fell back into her depression and I gave ger some space for a few days.Now that she has been single for a few months and got her rebound douche out of the way I wanted totake the initiative, ....She was always far busier than me(her now ex bf and super busy job), it was always her taking the lead in regards of when we could hang. This time I took the initiative and I said : "Hey lets get you out of (her boring city) and lets do something fun and exciting this friday after work."....her reply was basically "My work schedule changed, i am working evenings/nights for 6 weeks"......which does happen to her but it pissed me off that there was no "lets figure somethign out" follow up.
So i froze her out for several days and went on a date the night I wanted to take her. I hinted at the date on Facebook and my friends totally blew up my page asking about the hottie I was with ( good wingmen and women).
Later that night I posted a picture of where I was in LA....and the girl I am freezing out asked " Thats blah blah in LA, isnt it?"
I read about freeze outs but never got a good grasp about how to deal with a response from the girl freezing out if you have had a long rappport with her ( most freeze outs are about girls you are dating or just met at a bar/online. etc).
I am at the point where I dont mind losing her, but I dont really want that to happen. Her posting on my facebook stroked the ego a little bit.....but it didnt seem like enough. Should I reward her attempts at contact with a "one word answer"...or let her simmer and make a bigger attempt?.... Also, once things get better between us and she is chasing, should I let her make the attempt to hang out ( as usual), or take the initiative and ask her out agin( even though she pretty muich flaked in that last attempt).