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    Default We had a thing but her ex is messing with my game?

    Hello!

    I was seeing a girl for just under 2 months, we had a thing with no title. I knew that she had been heartbroken about 4 months ago before we started our thing. I thought she would have been over him by then, but it was her first love. She was my type, cute, smart and easy to talk with. So things were going good for about a month and a half. She is a virgin, so the furthest I could get with her was taking her top off/bra off and touching her *** over her clothes. I escalated and dealt with LMR the best I could. I was also comforting as she is a virgin.

    About 2 weeks ago she told me that her ex wanted to get back together with her as he probably heard about me fooling around with her.. She told me that she was really confused about what she wanted, she said that she liked me and at the time I was oblivious at the fact she probably still loved her ex. So from there, we both agreed that she needed some time to get over her feelings. Later that night, I was getting help with social media, randomly.. There were girls saying they couldn't wait to see me and buddies were saying stuff like 'Can't wait to go this "event!" So later that night, she texted me saying "I HAVEN'T MADE THE RIGHT DECISION HAVE I?" I responded with "No, you are just confused, give it some time." I then no longer texted her for a day or two until she re opens a convo.

    After this, we go on a roller coaster of emotions, both of us, she said that she liked me but just doesn't want commitment etc etc. I posted a DHV status on twitter that said "Girls only meet the parents because they need to walk past the living room." She then replied in another tweet, "You're a douche." I told her it wasn't directed at her nor was it made to make her feel "bad, or crumby in her words," this was on a car ride we took together. So I then asked her to be my girlfriend, I went totally AFC as I was super confused with my emotions and I liked her. I told her to give it some time. Oh and I am pretty sure her best friend hates me because of that tweet.

    She texted me later that night (this was about a week ago) asking if I was mad, I told her I wasn't. She then went onto disqualifying herself saying I should find someone who doesn't have so many issues and getting into a relationship shouldn't be this hard, etc etc. So I was pretty upset at the time, I responded with "K" and deleted her number etc etc.

    I have read other threads on here similar to mine, they all say be distant, cold, but be friendly! So my question is, should I tell her on facebook that I respect her and want to be friends with her and then be really distant (but so we are on 100% good terms) or continue NC? I know for a fact she is going to get hurt by her ex, I see her status updates on social media all the time..

    Oh and for the record, I have been gaming other chicks, girls have been posting stuff on my social media and they have uploaded a few party pics with me in them.

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    Default Re: We had a thing but her ex is messing with my game?

    Not all bad. Some was bad. But some moves were good.

    You're on the right track anyway.

    Don't reach out to her. If you're available and she knows your available, she'll explore wiht her ex, knowing you're there when she makes up her mind about him.

    Maybe you are there. But she doesn't know that. It's better that way.

    Keep gaming meanwhile. Okay, you're doing that, awesome, so i won't expand on the merits of that.

    I wouldnt say be "cold", but "distant", yes - in a sense. Let her come to you, but be receptive when she does.

    You're a high value man. You have a busy life. When she reaches out to you, use it as an opportunity to invite her out for coffee, or a drink, or go karting. Whatever, something fun.

    Don't bring up the ex. Don't go whiney AFC. Don't bring up commitment. Next time any commitment is discussed, it'll be her asking you to be with her. You can't bring it up.

    When it happens (and it will happen) that you guys go out - just be fun, confident, cool.

    It'll work out. She's thinking about you every day. Just be patient, and remember not to go AFC
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    Default Re: We had a thing but her ex is messing with my game?

    Thank you sir, I appreciate the input, just a quick question.. When she reaches out to me, I just normally close her like normal throughout our hangout, k close and keep leading her toward sex?

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    Default Re: We had a thing but her ex is messing with my game?

    The close is the same if you want

    But you're better off holding back, make her want it had enough that she pushes you to the close

    You can put up token resistance, and let her win you over

    If she doesnt try the first night don't sweat, you're not trying to close right away, this is a game of patience and value
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    Default Re: We had a thing but her ex is messing with my game?

    She got a new phone and told everyone to txt their numbers as she had none. I told her my number as i didnt have hers.. i didnt tell her that but she texted me.i opened with an opinion opener over txt, it was unimportant as i just said it was between a few girls and i etc so lets get to the important part. I am still friendzoned hardcore but i have done some major work getting out as far as im concerned as i totally didnt care anymote when i was texting her and she could tell.

    I answered a few txts from the night before then went cold on her, so she started the convo the next day and heres how it goes:

    Hb: so what were you gonna ask yesterday?
    Me: she got it figured out!
    Hb: ok
    Me: (7 hours later) yeah just a bunch of drama
    Hb: that sucks
    Me: you suck good? (I always talk sexual as much as i can)
    Hb: um..
    Me: good answer ( girls always do when suckin..)
    Hb: i thought so
    Me: i am getting up to mischief soon care to join
    Hb: no.
    Me: i wasnt implying anything more than friends, ill take someone else, you got some cutd friends i can take?
    Hb: (she says a chicks name that she hates)
    Me: one of your friends, you can put in a good word, perhaps (her bestfriend or bestfriends sister)
    Hb: my bestfriend says no and dont ever mention her sistera namr again
    Hb: or elae her sister will hurt you
    Hb: and ill have to help
    Me: kinky.
    Her: ( she goes on getting all reactive and jealous)
    ....
    Me: i told her i was seeing some girls too
    Hb: (talking all reactove and jealous) and says she cant help any more
    Me: all good
    Hb: (1 hour later) or take the one with the best personality


    So i always acted like the man, she was tryong to put me down at times saying i need to go out and meet girls on my own etc. So she spurred it all on her self i never once put her down and now i am in NC and i can bet a million thoughts are runnimg thru her head such as;

    -is he really seeing these girls
    -does he really not care amymore
    -wow i was rude
    -he must be really ovrr me

    I handled everything by never once being reactive and holdimg my frame. Amy suggestions as to what i should do when she re opens me?

    I am typing this on my phone sry for spelling mistakes brothers!


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