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    Default Moved to fast and got friend zoned

    Met a girl, we text for a while and went out on a date, she would text me first everyday and get all worried if I didn't response within an hour. Her interest level was through the roof and she hinted and hanging out several times. When I finally had some free time we went out on a date and I closed with a kiss. She text immediately after thanking me and we went on a second date a week later. Date went fine for the first half and I escalated to us cuddling on the couch and watching a scary movie. She hinted at future dates the whole time and all was good until her roomate came home. It became that awkward 3rd wheel situation because her roomate was hanging out in the living room. The girl pulled away a little bit physically but still had open body langiage towards me, just didnt want it to be awkward. At some point right after the movie ended her friend went to the bathroom and me beong frustrated acted annoyed and than asked the girl if I should just leave. She told me to hang out, but said she was getting tired and had an 8 am class about an hour later. I hinted at cuddling in her room but she rejected saying she doesn't sleep with guys she isn't dating. She walked me out and she could tell I was annoyed, we had an awkward standoff so I just closed with a quick kiss and met done friends at the bar. She text me half an hour later basically saying sorry. I just brushed it off with a no big deal and she said she just didnt know why freaked out and that she just wanted to keep things light for a while, being a drunk idiot I responded saying there's a fine line between taking it slow and toying around. Desperate beta move, I know, call it my dumb impatient college guy side. She told me We had only hung out twice and that she was gonna go at her own pace but if I was so antsy I was welcome to pursue other people and I didn't response assuming it was just a lost cause. She winds up texting me the next night asking if I was still grouchy I responded with some light answers and we had a flirty conversation. I figured she wanted to continue to date so the next day I tried to set up a third date and she responded with maybe sometime this week but you were right I but up a wall the other night, I just don't see you as more than a friend at this point. I didn't answer and 30 minutes later she text me again saying she's sorry and she doesn't want to upset me. It's a day later and I haven't responded yet, I'm still deciding if I should. I'm spinning other plates, but this was best one. Im certain if I was just patient and didnt act needy to get too physical so soon Id have a third date. Any genius ideas ? I was thinking either
    A. Just never respond , (but she may not care).
    B. just a casual sure! And than freeze her out
    C. Disqualify with a line like " where did you get the idea I was ready to be more than friends with you?"
    D. Call her out on her BS saying " that's girl code for: hey guy I was really interested but you moved too fast and now I feel pressured "
    E. tell her " I'm so glad you said that, I was actually thinking the same thing, I just didn't wanna pull the lets be friends card, I just don't put friends into "boxes" but I'm not looking for anything serious right now"some MPUA recommended this)
    F. Thank her for the offer but tell her I wasn't looking for a friend, I'm too busy to balance the ones I already have"
    G. Just act like she never said anything about being friends and say something funny and irrelevant
    Bounce me some ideas fellas, ill probably just wind up nexting her if I don't think of a genius line, but the interest is there, she just obviously got uncomfortable with the speed and than my little freak out pushed her away.

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    Default Re: Moved to fast and got friend zoned

    H. "No worries. I was just trying to get some hot amazing sex with you, connecting on some deep animal level and take us to pleasure heaven. But then I got a little frustrated at myself for not giving you the ultimate feelings of sensation that you crave. I know what I did wrong now though, so I'll get the next girl!"

    Naturally you have to adjust it to what you actually want from this girl. The idea was:
    1) She seems to feel that you are someone that she has hurt and has to take care of. THAT'S BAD! Make that stop at once!
    2) Show her that she will be missing something.

    I'm sure you can work on the details and maybe make it easier for her to come to the point of "No, try me again instead of another girl!".

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    Default Re: Moved to fast and got friend zoned

    I think you could have been a little more chill about that whole situation at her house with her roommate, It's seems like you let that situation escalate in a negative way after the fact. As for what to do, do whatever you feel like doing. Any of those will do, it all just depends on what you want the outcome to be, Figure out what you want and take the proper course of action.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."


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