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    Talking Have I been disqualified by her friend? (direct daygame approach)

    Hello, I'm a beginner and I need some help here, yesterday I did a direct approach during the day and it was going fantastic (or I thought so), then we met her friend (girl) and things started to get confusing. Here are the details:

    I saw this super hot girl walking so I ran after her and stopped right in front, making her stop. First thing I said, while she was taking off her headphones, was "Are you in a hurry?", she said "yeah, something like that", then I said the actual opener "just give me 1 minute, I think you are very very hot so I wanted to come and say hello". She giggled and started talking back and asking me questions, she seemed very comfortable (I was nervous the first 10 or 15 seconds but soon I got very relaxed too). Then I said "let me walk with you" (cause she said she was somewhat in a hurry to meet her friend and I didn't want it to end right there). We had a generic "what do you do" chat and then I insisted "I love girls like you" (while blatantly looking at her boobs), she giggled again and, at that time, I was pretty sure I was not going to be friendzoned; right after that I asked if she would like to meet again and she said yes and asked for my facebook, to which I answered "give me your number", she gave it to me right away, also gave me her full name to search on facebook, then we met her friend. I said "hi" to the friend and she asked "Who are you?", I said "I'm xxx and I just met her", she (the friend) started laughing and said to my target "you can't do sh1t like that hahaha" (as if she was picking me up), I said "what's the problem?" and she didn't answer. Before, I had asked my target if she was in a monogamous relationship and she said "something like that but IT DOESN'T MATTER" (that answer nearly made me ejaculate, obviously I'm not monogamous) so I think the friend might have been referring to this fact when she said that.
    Well, then we split and, hours later, I called her to see if we could meet, and the friend answers the phone (I didn't realize it was the friend until later) and starts some kind of sh1t-test: "Who are you?", "where did we meet?", "do I know you from somewhere?", I said "yeah, we meet a while ago" (thinking it was my target who I was talking to) and she laughed and told me it was the friend, then she started to talk weirdly and said something like "she's not here, fark off, she's not for you" and hung up. At that moment I thought "fark it, she's not interested and just asked her friend to answer and tell me that" but I still searched her on facebook later, I sent a friend request and she didn't accept. I sent her a message on facebook like "hey, whats up!" and got no answer.

    It confuses me cause she seemed genuinely interested in our initial interaction, she asked questions, giggled a lot and kept decent eye contact; also she could have just told me "I'm in a monogamous relationship" instead of what she said, or give me a fake number/ name but she didn't. I think the friend had a lot to do with this failure, and right now I don't know what to do, I was planning to wait a day or two and call her one last time (hopefully this time she will not be with her friend).
    What to do now?

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    Default Re: Have I been disqualified by her friend? (direct daygame approach)

    Dude ive been there, the friend seems to always mess it up. I think maybe you should have given the friend more attention initially, you have to address these cockblocks first. The friend probably was shit testing you, like for example I texted a girl and her friend was texting me. She asked for a picture and I sent one. Big mistake and I fell into a seller frame. Basically you cant wade through the bs. Assume that the girl wanted you. When she asked who is this just assume you made an amazing impression. I think mistakes with friends are easy to make. Your gonna want that friend on your side. Thats my two cents, im often struggling with this too. Good luck. Let this one go.

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    Default Re: Have I been disqualified by her friend? (direct daygame approach)

    Yeah I agree with Devil dog - you did really well up until the friend part. If you make friends with her friends you will be GOLD in her eyes. Girls talk about guys a lot and the friend will put in good words for you if he/she likes you.
    Also, I personally would not have called her a couple hours after you met. For me, if I was the girl, you would be coming across as overly interested.

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    Default Re: Have I been disqualified by her friend? (direct daygame approach)

    Thank you guys for the advice.

    Yeah, I think calling her back that soon might have made the impression that I'm too needy, but the thing is I was leaving the city that same afternoon (and I mentioned it to her in our first interaction) and I wanted to see if we could meet again after she finished with the dentist (earlier, I asked for her plans for the day, she mentioned she was going to the dentist with the friend and that later the friend was going with her to her home to stay there <--- This is the part I totally forgot about, I wouldn't have called if I actually remembered she was going to be with her all day).
    This was only my second approach in my life and I would like to learn all I can from it, so I might actually push it a bit more and MAYBE call her again tomorrow or the day after, and then forget forever.
    Any suggestions? I feel like going full aggressive.

    By the way, next time something like this happens, do you think it is a good idea to finish the interaction BEFORE I have to meet the friend(s)? or just stay there and try to befriend them? Maybe it's safer to finish it before you have to meet the friend(s) so your target doesn't feel judged.

    Thank you guys for your time.


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