Going from Good to Bad
A lot of people know me inaccurately as the nice guy, willing to help out anyone in a heart beat. However, I hate to be this guy, and recently I have begun to slam on the breaks in an effort to not come off like this.
In my course of being the nice guy, I have accumulated a lot of girls who are using me for my smarts and abilities. Currently, I have a close friend who is using me for my computer tech skills. She is a huge bitch, and has admitted it herself since we befriended each other back in September. We used to hang out a lot in the first semester, and we would both chat back and forth a lot. She is attractive, and holds a lot of value. Recently, she has not been treating me as a friend, and all she cares about is when I can burn some DVDs for her, or help her out with whatever she needs done.
I have three questions in relation to myself from this? The first one is how should I respond to a woman when I figure out she is using me? The first time I ever called a girl out for using me was back in November. She got pissed and didn't talk to me until January, when she finally apologized and asked for us to be on good terms.
My second question relates to the close friend. I called her out once recently for being a terrible friend, and she never outright said sorry, nor did she change anything to be better towards me. She often pairs me up with girls in my no-go zone and thinks that I'm their type, however I want her to see me in a context that makes even her attracted to me. Giving her the cold shoulder and not talking to her has no effect, so what should I do to make her regret being a bitch to me?
The third, and final question, is simply for other methods to reverse my image. The women of my type look me over because I am a nice guy. How should I greet and converse with these girls to change their perception of me. Right now, all the girls say hi to me when they walk by me or see me, and I usually smile or say hey back. How can I change up my greeting or my reactions in public?
In the end, I'm looking for more ways to change my image besides being more restricted and demanding for things in return for my assistance. In part, I want to also establish myself as someone who doesn't take garbage, and who is not the kind of person that someone can just walk on by and say "hi" to and consider an overall "nice, sweet guy" as I have been told so many times before.
"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X