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Thread: How do you escalate with a shy girl?

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    Default How do you escalate with a shy girl?

    So I'm dating this girl at the minute, she's lovely, probably an HB8 but she's very prim and propper...

    My problem is it's very hard to escalate with her because she is a little shy and a bit awkward. I don't want to come off as sleazy.

    We had a date last night and tbh it was a bit of a disaster, she parked in the wrong place and got her car locked in the car park. I had to go and find a security man to let her out and she was just panicking for about 2 hours...

    I followed up with a text last night:

    "hey there little miss panic attack, did you get home safe?"

    she replied:

    "hey James, yeah I got home ok thanks but it was a horrible drive"


    I then sent something along the lines of "you're cute when you panic, you know"

    I've got nothing back....


    I'm not really worried yet as I know it's early days but is there anything I can do to help my chances.

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    Default Re: How do you escalate with a shy girl?

    Quote Originally Posted by sidewinder89 View Post
    "hey there little miss panic attack, did you get home safe?"

    she replied:

    "hey James, yeah I got home ok thanks but it was a horrible drive"


    I then sent something along the lines of "you're cute when you panic, you know"
    Gah! Horrible texting! I think you've read the tips about that your texts should not be boring, but instead bring feeling? Well, your texts did do exactly that, but they reminded her about the panic attack. Don't ever bring up times when she's been in a bad mood! Just pretend it never happened, or if you really have to bring it up, do it face to face and in a very strictly logical way and ask about details which will take the emotions out of it.

    And seriously: Do you think that she wants to be with a guy who thinks she's cute when she's feeling horrible?

    What you should have done is to text her about the next amazing date when everything goes smoothly and she feels great.

    I hope you can recover by just pretending that this never happened and build up excitement for the future.

    Other than this, I'm also very interested in special tips about shy girls. Now finally I seem to be very good at making them feel comfortable, but that also leads to the friendzone.

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    Default Re: How do you escalate with a shy girl?

    Be the first to stop would be the best tip I can think of. I find with shy girls when you are kissing them, then try to push it a little bit further, let's say you slide your hand up her thigh for instance, if she's not comfortable you will feel her 'tense up' so to speak. If you feel hat happen don't keep going till she tells you no, just slow it up a bit and go back to what you were doing before, or sometimes even push her away and act like its moving too fast for you. Don't get me wrong it will take you longer to get somewhere with her but it will also make her appreciate that you can read her like a book and know where to draw the line. And trust me once you get there the shy ones are always the most fun
    Good luck

    Linking x

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    Default Re: How do you escalate with a shy girl?

    Thanks, Linking that's what I was thinking... I like shy girls anyway I find they are far more loyal girlfirends.

    Friendzone Dominator - can't say that was particularly helpful; Just so you know, I had to text this girl for 5 months before we went out because of our conflicting work schedules... and whilst the 2 above may not be my prime material I'm generally decent on the texting front.

    And to clarify it wasn't a full on panic attack she just felt a little silly afterwards and said that "It will be a funny story". Teasing her about it should be fine as she's pretty self-assured.

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    Default Re: How do you escalate with a shy girl?

    Yeah I'll back sidewinder on that, if you have material to tease her with then do it, if it was something serious then yes you shouldn't bring it up.....but panicking about a car park......rip into her big time lol

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