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    Default Re: Slept with a Gorgeous Girl who has EPICALLY Pathetic BF - What do I do

    Yes very solid. You have her as what u want (fbuddy) so there is no pressure. But watch out because if she is the only girl u get sex from, u will get attached... probably more than u want.
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    Default Re: Slept with a Gorgeous Girl who has EPICALLY Pathetic BF - What do I do

    I honestly still potentially want a relationship with her - but until that becomes possible I'm just trying to treat it as a fbuddy situation for the time being to keep the pressure off and to keep myself from getting too wrapped up/attached. For it to develop in that direction the bf needs to be gone to open things up for her and I. I'm guessing it's time to start working on BF Destroyer, though I'm still not sure how I should run it given we've slept together...

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    Default Re: Slept with a Gorgeous Girl who has EPICALLY Pathetic BF - What do I do

    Plan on being busy tonight, but give her a time/day that you are free to chat. She probably has something important to say.
    Also decide what you want from her. A f-buddy or a gf?

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    Default Re: Slept with a Gorgeous Girl who has EPICALLY Pathetic BF - What do I do

    If you want a relationship....trea d lightly.

    You didnt mention how long they have been together. Clearly she has been wanting to end the relationship for a whilebut she is weak wiled ( wont break up with him and sleeps wit you behnd his back.....tells him about it....shes looking for a way out but shes kinda AFC herself). Break ups are hard even if yo hate the person....and it will take time for herto be baggage free.

    Right now you arethe f-buddy. I would suggest you let her do all the chasing. Which is seems like you are doing. She will question your motives....and she will let you know if she wants more ( which is where you want her.)_.

    I wouldn suggest a BF destroyer because you alraedy did plenty in that regard ( f-closing). Let her do the rest. But thats no guarantee she will come running after you.

    If you do end up in a relationship, yo have to bbe Alpha most of the time. Clearly they are beraking up cuz he is a pussy. She doesnt want another one

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    Default Re: Slept with a Gorgeous Girl who has EPICALLY Pathetic BF - What do I do

    OP here again. She messaged me on facebook and we talked for a couple of hours. The plot thickens...

    She claims she's going to tell her BF she "needs some space to think." She remains "sure" she likes me, and she had a great time when we hooked up. But she says: "I'm going to need time IF anything were to happen with you and I like that again. Regardless of the quality my romantic relationship with my boyfriend, he's one of my best friends, and I am entirely freaking out." It "wouldn't be healthy" for she and I to ignore that.

    She says that "in the event" that things don't work out with her boyfriend, she still has a lot of reservations about starting something else.

    My response was very close to what sidewinder suggested. I told her it's her decision, I can't make it for her. That I've always felt it's a possibility to be discussed when and if it's over with him, and that I'm not even comfortable talking about starting something while she's still with him, and that it depends on a lot of things. I said worrying about the hypothetical details of a hypothetical situation isn't something I do, and that we're just having fun. I told her I have no expectations and that she shouldn't either.

    She told me she "thinks that we are saying the same things." We spent almost an hour after this playfully talking about how we hooked up with a fair amount of innuendo.

    What do you guys think? Does this leave things open for a friends with benefits situation? What would you do?

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    Default Re: Slept with a Gorgeous Girl who has EPICALLY Pathetic BF - What do I do

    Depends what you want from it really...

    She still seems very hung up on her ex. I would suggest staying non-committal, the more you push her to break up with him the more she'll cling on to him. Whatever you do don't tell her you want a relationship!

    I would suggest you game other girls and just put her on the backburner for now.

    Just be careful you don't get relegated to a texting-buddy. Don't let her dump any of her issues with her bf on you either. If she starts, just say you don't want to talk about it.

    Just play the waiting game and let the relationship implode.

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    Default Re: Slept with a Gorgeous Girl who has EPICALLY Pathetic BF - What do I do

    At this point I'd just like to turn it into a friends with benefits situation, but she seems to be suggesting that's off the table (""I'm going to need time IF anything were to happen with you and I like that again").

    I haven't talked to her since that conversation Tuesday night. I'm not really sure how to keep things going with her or keep the possibility of fbuddy open. My temptation now is to text her and try to hang out. I will focus on other girls but I want to build more interest with her and keep myself on her mind. Though it sounds like it's better to just forget about it for a while?

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    Default Re: Slept with a Gorgeous Girl who has EPICALLY Pathetic BF - What do I do

    Well you can drop the occasional text to keep her thinking about you, just don't engage any deep topics. Keep it light...

    I sent this to an HB9 last night, instant response.

    "I'm bored so I'm building a fort and eating blueberries! nothing like a bit of childhood regression".

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    Default Re: Slept with a Gorgeous Girl who has EPICALLY Pathetic BF - What do I do

    Well if she liked the sex, it wont be hard to escalate again. The point is that u want her as an fBUDDY... remember the BUDDY part. Be friendly, text her once in awhile, call her to hang out after a couple weeks. Treat her like a friend but continue to flirt and escalate. Push pull and use mixed messages.

    Keep her guessing whether you are trying to be friends or if u want sex. She will ride high on the tension and it'll be over for her after a short time. Also, dont always push for sex every time u see her. It gets predictable and she may think you are using her only for that.
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    Default Re: Slept with a Gorgeous Girl who has EPICALLY Pathetic BF - What do I do

    This is a similar situation to my ex. (I ended up not caring, probably AFCing and losing her to someone else but...) She was with a BF but fancied me for ages. I genuinely didnt care all that much which created electricity. We got together and I continued going about things with a careless attitude which caused her to leave him for me. I openly flirted with other girls so she jumped ship.

    When I had problems and ended up losing her I did the opposite and wanted her which pushed her away. I now realise if you act cool with everything and careless like you have other options its like giving them a time constraint of losing you.


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