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Thread: Slept with a Gorgeous Girl who has EPICALLY Pathetic BF - What do I do now?

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    Default Re: Slept with a Gorgeous Girl who has EPICALLY Pathetic BF - What do I do

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    Well if she liked the sex, it wont be hard to escalate again. The point is that u want her as an fBUDDY... remember the BUDDY part. Be friendly, text her once in awhile, call her to hang out after a couple weeks. Treat her like a friend but continue to flirt and escalate. Push pull and use mixed messages.

    Keep her guessing whether you are trying to be friends or if u want sex. She will ride high on the tension and it'll be over for her after a short time. Also, dont always push for sex every time u see her. It gets predictable and she may think you are using her only for that.

    As I read your update of the situation I was going to say exactly what LOCKDOWN is suggesting.

    She is starting to dump on you a lot. Which is fine to a degree because you do have to have some compassion for building comfort. But at the same time you should start acting disinterested when it becomes too often ( which you should honestly feel)....you dont want to be associated with all this drama in her head, you want to be the fun guy

    When her complaints and concerns are becoming too negative and repetitive just cut her off and say " You know this is getting heavy. And I have some BS stuff going on too. So much Stress!.... I need to get my mind off this stuff and wanna have some fun. Lets go to _______ and get our minds off all our crap and have a fun day."

    Since she voiced that she is concerned about getting into another relationship...go with that. Keep it casual and say all you want to do is have fun and do cool shit with her because you enjoy her company. If she throws one of those emotional LMR things just say "Whoa. Settle down little lady. Who said anything about clingy emotions? Life is too short and I dont even know you that well enough to give up my valuable cache of emotions to someone who is not even my gf."

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    Default Re: Slept with a Gorgeous Girl who has EPICALLY Pathetic BF - What do I do

    Very true about not letting her give you negativity.

    My go to response is also, "Hey i charge for therapy! $200 per hour!" Give her just a taste of your sensitive side. A TASTE. If she persists and wants more dont give in. Stay fun!
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    Default Re: Slept with a Gorgeous Girl who has EPICALLY Pathetic BF - What do I do

    Hey guys, OP here. Thank you for such solid advice, please keep it coming if you have additional thoughts.

    A few nights ago we met up for drinks followed by a few hours making out in her car. Very hot and heavy, I get the distinct impression she was quite into it.

    After those first big conversations I previously described she hasn't really dumped anything more on me. She hasn't mentioned the bf once (who I think is out of town), so I don't really know what their status is, but I fully intend to dismiss it exactly as you guys have advised if she starts.

    I feel like my main weakness here (and in terms of general PUA) is setting up more opportunities for us to be together, particularly with us alone. I'm still never quite sure how to ask her to do something, how often, what to say we're doing, etc. I casually talk to her every few days. Two or three times since the initial hookup I've said something along the lines of "I'm going here and doing this at this time, you should come", but other than drinks two nights ago I haven't seen her since the start of all this.

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    Default Re: Slept with a Gorgeous Girl who has EPICALLY Pathetic BF - What do I do

    Whether it's a power play or not on his part he is the one with her, and if you move him out of the way because he is a loser whats to say she won't do the same thing to you once you get with her and say that you are loser in her eyes. If it was that easy for you to fark her while in a current relationships how do you think it will be for some other guy to fark her behind you back.

    She has to be all in or nothing and if it was me I would just say I enjoyed the fark and move on.


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