Hey, long time PUA student finally putting some of what I've learned to practice and seeing some of the first benefits. Things took off in a major way with a girl I've wanted for a while, but there are serious complications and I don't know what my next moves should look like.
This girl has a long-term boyfriend who is a massive loser: he's 30 years old, unemployed, and lives in his parent's house. She has very little sex life with him, all he does is hang out with his loser friends, blow her off, and generally act mopey and depressed.
I genuinely like and care about her. I've built comfort/rapport, teased, been challenging/difficult/exciting, just very basic game (I have a long way to go), and she showed ever more signs of interest. Recently she admitted to a mutual friend that she has serious feelings for me and is not happy with her bf. A few nights ago after some drinking we started making out and having sex.
Afterwards she starts talking about ending it with him, wanting to start something new with me. I was noncommital and vague, said something like I was "open to possibilities."
The day after she lies and tells her bf that we "made out." According to her he was "sad but understanding, didn't want to get into it, didn't want her to feel bad about it." If that sounds passive and wimpy, here's the kicker: a few hours after she told him we "made out" he MESSAGES me saying that although he's "not super cool with it" he "wanted to say there's no hard feelings" and he "hopes our friendship will remain strong" (we're not close - acquaintances is a stretch).
The same day she tells him: she starts telling me she's not sure what she wants. She feels selfish leaving him. I ask her if she was happy with him if she would have slept with me, her answer: "Presumably not."
She feels like it's not working out with her bf because she "has been handling things poorly" (I guess sex with me would count) and claims if she wanted to she "could probably work things out with him relatively easily." She likes me, but is "relucant," "not great at managing relationships." Typical indecisive BS.
It's been two days and she hasn't left him. I want the boyfriend out of the way and to continue exploring things with her. What should I do? Play it cool and distant, ignore her? Or try to hang out with her, get myself more on her mind, keep working her? I'm trying to strike a balance but I'm a bit over my head, please help!