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    Default Need desperate help. Here is my love story.

    ACT I: The Meeting
    My story begins on 3rd of June 2011. I met Vaso on a concert. I was 16
    back then and Vaso was 14. Though we had been texting to each other
    for weeks before the concert. This was our first face-to-face
    encounter. We instantly fell in love with each other. It was like
    meeting your soulmate all at once. We were talking and being so sweet
    to each other. On our 3rd date I asked her to be my girl. She accepted
    with our first kiss. Many weeks later I went to Platamon for the
    summer. I was only a train or 30 minutes away from her. We were on the
    phone every day and texting all day, since we couldn't see each other.
    It was amazing! It was pure LOVE. There were times when I would visit
    her. And oh boy, THOSE times were the BEST. In the middle of July, I
    met a girl, Zoe and we made out for a couple of minutes. We were both
    drunk. I don't know why but I didn't feel any guilt for what I had
    done. On August I went on a trip to Germany. We hadn't seen each other
    for 18 days! I returned on 18th August. The next day was our 2month
    anniversary. Though on 19th, some random number texted me and we
    started texting to each other like crazy. It was a girl I didn't know,
    Jenny was her name. We were talking about extreme things like, meeting
    with her when I still had my girlfriend and talking about sexual
    stuff.

    ACT II: Uh-oh, Iceberg Ahead.
    Something inside me about Vaso had now changed. I was feeling so
    confused as to what to do. I didn't know what to do. I was so lost,
    for the first time in my life. On 20 (anniversary) Vaso came to
    Platamon. She told me how mush she wanted to meet me(because of the
    anniversary thing..) but I told her NO! (because I was feeling weird &
    confused apparently). I went out with my friends that night.. AND I
    BUMPED INTO HER. I hugged her, kissed her and we went for a walk. She
    instantly asked me if everything was ok. I told her that something
    personal was happening in my life and that I could tell her. She asked
    me, what can I do? I told her: "Just leave me alone(meaning I needed
    time)" She left crying. I didn't talk to her for a week. On 27th I
    visited my cousin and came to a decision. Break up with her. Over
    Facebook(did this just because I couldn't wait till Monday to tell
    her.) So there I was, single. Still texting with Jenny, prepping for
    the BIG MEETING. I meat Jenny, we had a great time together. I can
    pretty much say that she was the girl I wanted to marry back then. But
    after our first great meeting. She disappeared. I mean literally.
    Never saw her again, never heard from her again. It was like she
    vanished into thin air! Looked on the school she had told me she went?
    Nothing. I don't even know if Jenny was her real name.

    ACT III: You are well & truly on your own.

    And then there I was. Well & truly on my own. 4 months passed. Vaso
    was still on the back of my mind. On December it hit me. I would get
    her back. I arranged a meeting. I met her on 4th January 2012 and
    after a long and convincing talk about what had gone wrong we were
    back together. Something inside me though knew that it would not be
    for long. You see, I had some friend issued back then. Huge issues. I
    practically did not have many friends because of a huge argument. So
    let's say Vaso was not my first priority. Well we had our time, I was
    distant, I treated her a little bit like sh1t(meaning I would text her
    whenever I wanted or go out with her and never went downtown with her,
    because I felt kinda ashamed, didn't think that other people would
    find her attractive (AND BELIEVE ME SHE WAS/IS!). After 2 months it
    was over. The day we broke up, 17 March 2012, I sent her a message
    calling her names and naming every single time I had cheated on her.
    And after that, I didn't speak to her for another 2 months.

    ACT IV: How about a third chance?

    All those 2 months I didn't event think of her, I mean I felt fine.
    Just fine. On 20th May she poked me on Facebook. We started texting
    again and before I knew it we had arranged a meeting. On the first
    meeting I didn't exactly know if I wanted her back so I didn't ask her
    to be with me. She left crying. And a week later, we met again and
    after a long and casual talk we were together. For the third and BEST
    TIME. The best were about to come.

    ACT V: Love is all around.
    Things between me and Vaso were just perfect. I loved her more and
    more everyday and she did the same. We were going for bike rides, we
    went swimming together, it was amazing. PURE LOVE at its best. And we
    had many great times together that I cannot refer to in detail. We
    even made dreams together. That one day we would have kids, and get
    married and live on a penthouse in New York. AND WE MEANT EVERY
    SINGLE WORD. It was amazing. On September school started. You see I
    was on the last year of high school. HERE IN GREECE WE HAVE EXAMS AT
    THE END OF THIS YEAR, THEY ARE CALLED PANELLINIES. These exams
    determine our FUTURE and our entrance to the University. They are just
    TOO DAMN IMPORTANT. As far as Vaso is concerned, I Introduced her to
    my friends, we were going out together. She had some problems with HER
    friends that were hurting her and not letting her think very clearly,
    but eventually she overcame everything. On November I managed to get
    her Facebook account password and gave it a spin through the messages.
    I found out that there was a guy at her school that she kinda liked
    and she was thinking of cheating on me. But finally she called it of
    because she realised how much she loved me. I told her. Then things
    between us got weird. I mean we were still in love but were not
    talking so obsessively like before. I even started asking and asking
    her again and again insecurity questions.
    *Are we going to full fill our dreams?
    *How do I know that you will never think of this guy?
    *Do you love me?/Will you always love me?
    Imagine these and other insecurity question all the time, everyday.
    She was feeling frustrated. On February 1 2013. She gave me the first
    shot. Harry, she said, I wanna break up with you. Well we said about
    how we will be together again this summer, after my Panellinies. First
    I thought that the reason was the other guy.(Remember?) No, she was
    just feeling frustrated and confused. She was even nervous because she
    had ballet exams coming on March. So I didn't talk to her. The future
    from there was like this:

    1st Contact: She contacted me after a week, asking how I was doing and
    on my name day we even went out together. I asked her to be with me
    once again, start all over. She said yes. But this was kinda a testing
    period after 3 days , she called it off because I was still asking her
    the same crappy questions and she couldn't determine whether she
    wanted to be with me or not.
    WHEN WE BROKE UP THIS TIME I FELT SO SAD AND LONELY THAT I TOLD HER A
    BIG LIE: I told her that my Grandma died, just to make her feel sorry
    for me and come back. And there she was again, but was it just PITY?
    2nd contact: After a week, we went out again and she was telling me
    about something horrible she had done. On Valentines she went out
    withe the other guy and she was talking to him about me. She felt
    vulnerable and the other guy kissed her. She gave in only for once.
    Than the other guy asked her to be with him. She said, I just want to
    be with Harry.(Me!) She told me how bad she felt about that, like she
    had betrayed me. And she told me that know she knew that she wanted to
    be just with me. Long story short, got back together, were very happy.
    But from day One, I started asking the same things over and over. Till
    our anniversary day(a week after we made up), when we broke up again.

    3rd Contact: She started talking to me after some days. This started
    happening everyday. She really believed that I could stop asking and
    change. And I believed it too. But one day she found out about the
    death lie. She said: NEVER TALK TO ME AGAIN!

    4th contact: She calls a week later and asks how I am doing and
    everything. After this call, we started talking everyday again. She
    was kinda sick so I told her I would come by and treat her. I went
    there, things were cold at first but when she laid to bed, I kissed
    her, we started making out. I went the other day again. Things were
    more passionate this time. We were cuddling, making out in bed, she
    even undressed me! But I was still asking questions, whether we will
    be together again. She kept replying I don't know but she was doing it
    with a sweet smile like she was saying yes. On Sunday( 17 March 2013)
    she had her ballet exams. She told me she did great. We were texting.
    So I finally call her on Monday. She was talking in a cold way. I told
    her in a very enthusiastic mood that I NOW HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS TO MY
    QUESTIONS. And I have figured out that she doesn't want us to be back
    together. And she replied I don't want to be with you. For now. She
    said that after the exams she could think clearer and she thought
    about us. And the answer was NO. But I understood that she left hopes
    for the future. And that she know we will be together again. After
    the classic question thing, we hang up and haven't talked ever since.

    CONCLUSION: IN THE FIST 2 TIMES WE WERE TOGETHER SHE WAS OBSESSED WITH ME AND I TREATED HER LIKE A COMPLETE JERK. ON THE THIRD TIME I FELL IN LOVE WITH HER AND SHE STILL IS BUT I BECAME NEEDY AND CLINGY. MY EXAMS ARE IN 2 MONTHS. WHEN I FINISH MY EXAMS, I
    WILL GO ASK HER TO BE WITH ME AGAIN. OK WE SWITCHED ROLES. SHE HAS ALL
    THE POWER NOW. I AM THE DOORMAT OR THE P***Y. THE FIRST 2 TIMES SHE
    WAS OBSESSED AND I WAS THE DUMPER. NOW I AM OBSESSED. BUT I KNOW SHE
    STILL LOVES ME BECAUSE WE HAVE A VERY STRONG BOND AND HAVE LIVED
    THROUGH THE UNBELIEVABLE TOGETHER. I HAVE SILENTLY INITIATED NC ON
    HER. WHAT I KNOW IS THAT SHE WILL DEFINITELY TEXT ME OR CALL ME IN
    SOME DAYS OR WEEKS. I WAS THINKING IF SHE TEXTS I SHOULD NOT REPLY,
    BUT HOW WILL THAT MAKE HER FEEL.? (WILL SHE CONTACT ME AGAIN IF I DO
    SO?)ONLY IF SHE CALLS ME I WAS THINKING ABOUT ANSWERING AND PLAYING IT
    COOL. IN THESE 2 MONTHS I WILL NOT CONTACT HER AT ALL., I WILL ONLY
    WAIT FOR HER. TO CONTACT ME. WHAT DO YOU THINK I SHOULD DO? I MEAN I
    DESPERATELY WANT HER BACK. PLEASE LET ME KNOW OF YOUR OPINION. AND
    THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR READING.

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    Default Re: Need desperate help. Here is my love story.

    YIKES!!
    What the heck just happened?

    Anyway.....
    My advice - man up or let it go.


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    Default Re: Need desperate help. Here is my love story.

    I feel that I am changing to a better person. I am not the jerk that did all these or the pussy that used to lie. I am a man and I want her back. Here is my plan. I will go find her when I finish my exams in 2 months. Till then I will not attempt to contact her. But I know she will contact me in some days or weeks. If she texts me, I am thinking of not responding. ( But what would that make her think or feel?) I would only respond if she calls and play it cool. What do you think?

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    Default Re: Need desperate help. Here is my love story.

    Bro you sound like a drama queen. You can't expect to be shady like that and still get it all back, I have a feeling you're just going to get back into this same downward spiral you've been describing all along. Until you change and figure out what you want and not be so indecisive, you're just gonna mess with this girls head until she doesn't want anything to do with you anymore. My advice, get your Sh1t together and then give it a shot. Good luck.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: Need desperate help. Here is my love story.

    Yeah but guys tell me! I am NC shall I respond if she texts? Would that make her mad if I dont?

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    Default Re: Need desperate help. Here is my love story.

    What Thatoneguyonforums said, that you need to figure out what you want yourself. Are you ready to move forward with this girl? Would you truly want to spend the rest of your life with her, and hopefully be faithful and truthful? If she does text, maybe wait a few hours than respond. I wouldn't go totally cold, because if you totally ignore her, she might move on for good, and then you will thing the dreaded "what ifs".

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    Default Re: Need desperate help. Here is my love story.

    Everyone thank you very much for your advice! I honestly appreciate it. Though, give me a minute to explain my mindset/plan:
    I am unannounced NC now. I tell you I will not attempt to contact her for those 2 months till the end of my exams. If she texts I will not respond. Only if she calls after that I will answer and play it cool. Like I read on Get Her Back and Ex(squared) system. When I finish my exams on June 1. I will tell her to meet me. I will go out with her and just play it cool show her I changed and not mention anything about getting back together. Then I will aske her out again. I mean I will not go directly asking her to be with me. I will try to win her back by making her feelings for me strong again. Like we are starting anew, begin dating. And then only if I see that it is going well I will not ask her, it will just go without questions that we ll be back together.

    Here are my questions:
    1) She know that I am the doormat now and that she has all the power. If I do not respond to her text though, wont she think Oh! Harry is moving on, time to do the same.
    2) What do you think of my mindset?
    3) As you see in my story, time worked wonders. Last year we broke up on March and till May we hadnt had the slightest of contact. Wont that do well in my case?
    4) Not responding wont make her mad?

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    Default Re: Need desperate help. Here is my love story.

    and by going mad I mean not responding wont make her mad? I mean wouldnt it make her not contact me again since I have not responded? (kill any chance for future contact?)

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    Default Re: Need desperate help. Here is my love story.

    DUDE SHORTEN YOUR POSTS!!

    I think you've done so much damage to each other that this will never ever work! You need to calm the fuck down as well. Stop being so massively melodramatic.

    If it works out then it works out, if it doesn't it doesn't. You actually need to work out what you want and for the love of christ stop asking her to get back together every five seconds. It will annoy the shit out of her.

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    Default Re: Need desperate help. Here is my love story.

    I dont think you understood my approach. I am still waiting for answers.


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