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    Default When a girl says maybe...

    Alright I kinda in a situation here. I work with this girl that I like and started talking to her after awhile she would purposely bump into me ask me to feel her palms to see if there oily, I even held her hand and rubbed my thumb on the palm of her hand to see what she would do and she just smiled. She also asked to use my jacket as well, also she asked if she can have a sip of my coffee. Well I waited till it was just the two of us alone well I was asking her when she works and she said Friday but wasn't sure about Saturday, then I said well lets hangout Saturday she said maybe in a sorta high pitched voice and asked if I had Facebook. She does not have a phone# to give me, so i added her, after that when she was leaving she looked back smiling at me and said bye in a soft voice. Now did she just politely say no or is she playing hard to get?? please help me with this situation thanks in advance.
    I actually asked her out Friday after work and she said, shes busy and mentioned shes seeing someone and that he might not be to happy about that. Is this chick just lying to me or just likes the attention, she never mentioned having a boyfriend. I replied with k will I assumed you wore single but that's cool if your taken, she replied with That's all good. Doesn't change anything. We still have to chill before I leave. You know that right haha I'm going to sleep now. See you Thursday (:

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    Default Re: When a girl says maybe...

    Hey,

    This is just my opinion!
    I get a feeling you jumped through (maybe to much) hoops for her. Or that's the way you fraise the story at least. Anyway I feel like you're giving her alot of attention and you're putting her on a pedistel.
    Tease her, be aloof sometimes, challenge her, be unpredictable, show (or give her the feeling) she's not your only option.

    BTW Don't ever respond on a I got a boyfriend response. Ignore it there's no need for you to comment on that unless you know 100% what you're doing.
    What you did now is possibly saying: "I'm a good guy I respect you and didn't know you had a boyfriend and I don't know if I'm better than that man so I'm sorry I didn't want to force you in a relationship you didn't want,..."

    Now personally I don't think you really said that but depending on how she views herself you might have said something in that genre. The point is excusing yourself for wanting her because she has a boyfriend is just a bad idea. Because then what do you got to offer her?

    I really don't know this is usefull advice for you, but when I read your story that's the feeling I get. She gives you 20% and you give 50% back.

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    Default Re: When a girl says maybe...

    Hello velasco

    I agree with M ROCAL.

    She did quite a few compliance tests to you (vulgarly know as hoops) in order to see if you'd fall for them... which you did. What happened quite simply was that you devaluated yourself to her eyes (DLV behaviour).


    No problemo velasco, now that you know what happened, you'll never fall again for this

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    Default Re: When a girl says maybe...

    But like I said (or tried to) there's a (real) chance you can change it all around!!!
    Even if you complied to much just by changing your behaviour by for example starting to touch her alot more (fist bump shoulder etc.) and start teasing her physically I'm sure you can generate alot of attraction from her side. I don't believe physical touch is the way you should go just to make that clear, but like Lenny Kravitz said - "It Ain't Over Til It's Over"

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    Default Re: When a girl says maybe...

    Honestly I feel like we might be on the same exact girl, everything you said is almost spot on with a girl at my work.
    Though unlikely, that other guy might be me lol. but that's besides the point. I'd say just play it cool for a while, don't seem like you want her to much, treat her almost like she's a diversion to you. Make her want you, by not wanting her. Then at the peak of the tension ask her out, She should say yes. Good luck.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: When a girl says maybe...

    Yeah nothing about that story screams to me "maybe". If anything it sounds like you're being counter-played.
    you are a soul playing a game of human
    might as well unlock all the secret areas

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    velasco541 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: When a girl says maybe...

    So shes just playing games with me then?

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    Default Re: When a girl says maybe...

    You can (and must) start flirting with her, by being playful... expect nothing, because either way it's going to be a win win situation. If you don't get engaged, you're going to develop your flirting skills anyway.

    By the way, start flirting with other girls. That's the best way you'll ever find to avoid needy behaviour.

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    Default Re: When a girl says maybe...

    @velasco541: Hey, you're playing games with her too. Don't hate the playa.

    Seems like she figures she has you hooked. Might be time to act a little scarce.
    you are a soul playing a game of human
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    velasco541 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: When a girl says maybe...

    Oh like don't talk to her for a bit? and generally avoid her? I'm playing games with her how so? thanks in advance.


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