Okay so there's this girl that I've been friends with for about a year and half now, I want out of the friendzone and I need some advice as how I do just that.
I planned on sending her this message to let her know where I stand, tell me what you think.
"I seem to be the person that you tell all your problems to and the person that you come to when you need to vent, I'm not saying I hate helping you and listening because I love making you happy, but I'm not that guy. I'm not the guy that's gonna always be there for you, and listen to your every problem, I value myself more then that. I'm spending to much time and effort trying to be there for you and help you with your problems when I should be putting that effort into other things. In all honesty I want a girlfriend more then anything, someone I can talk to about things with and have her be just as passionate about them as i am and be opened minded like I am. I want someone I can spend time with and just laugh and not have a care in the world. All this effort I put into trying to be there for you and helping you, when it seems you don't want it, could and should be put into finding a girl that's right for me. After not talking to you for the last couple months I focused on myself, I started working out, driving, and talking to a hand full of girls. It made feel incredible and I still feel incredible, but like I said I don't want to be that guy, and I'm not gonna be that guy. I'm not getting sucked in to that hole that I once fell victim to, and if it sounds like you might be losing me, maybe thats the way it is. Like I said I value myself more then that, I'm an attractive guy, I'm nice, funny, and I'm open to new ideas constantly, so many girls would love to have a guy like me. That's why I'm not going to spend the time and effort on something that seems to be not worth it. don't get me wrong I love all the memories and times we spent together, but I want more for myself and I deserve more."