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    Default I am new please show me the direction

    Hi guys,

    I have never really been successful with women so I always had to date with low-quality ones. Recently (as part of my 2013 resolution list) I decided to put an end on this and not only become good with women but also someday become an Alpha Male ;-)

    As a beginner I have some questions that might have been answered before but some link, references or answers will help a confuse PUA student heaps:

    1- Does Direct Approach work at all? I approach girls and some of them treat me badly, 80% say 'I have a BF', the rest give me a number but they never answer my text.

    2- I did online dating for a year. I got rejected so many times after either the first date or the second one. I have had some successful dates with average or lower-average quality women since I started PUA training (due to more confidence I think). BTW I mean I am BAD at attracting women so any help as to how can I attract women especially in 5 min?

    3- What is the best opener for a gorgeous girl who is walking towards me on the street?

    4- should I approach from behind or the front?

    5- Do I have to do an overhaul and improve my shape, look and dress dramatically? I can provide you with pics etc.

    6- Do you think women may simply reject a guy because he is not white etc? In that case the best PUA will fail if he is not (say) white!

    7- I am from Sydney. Anyone from Sydney in the house?

    Thanks guys

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    Default Re: I am new please show me the direction

    Carlos Xuma - The secrets of the alpha man. Moreover, see casino royale and quantum of solace. Do what the book says and act how James does. After 1 week doing that, come back here and tell us how it was

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    Default Re: I am new please show me the direction

    Well.. while that James Bond stuff may work if you're a bad ass MI6 agent saving hot ass girls all day, I don't think it will be of any real help for him lol.

    1. Direct approach works, if you are confident and know what to say or how to respond. with that said even the best will fail at direct a good portion of the time. To practice just approach the girls you would normally hit on and just introduce yourself to them for a while, Don't ask for their number just introduce yourself and walk away. Once you get comfortable at just approaching them it will be that much easier to take it to the next level and be more confident in your approaches.

    2. I tend to refrain from online dating, as I prefer to meet girls in person but that's just me. But your question is more about attracting women, which is a tricky subject. The most basic ways to attract women you are talking to are to make them laugh and to not seem like you're to desperate or needy, beyond that I could elaborate but you can find many threads on this subject so check it out.

    3. The best opener is to just be honest and confident and say "Hey I couldn't help but notice your (insert compliment)My name is (name)" and after that it's pretty straight forward. Some helpful advice would be to try and find common ground with the girl so it doesn't seem so random, for example if you are both wearing Chuck Taylors then make that the base of your opener. This can work with anything, just try and make a connection between you and her somehow, find that common interest.

    4. Doesn't matter, this shouldn't determine whether or not you should approach. But ideally from the front.

    5. No, Just be yourself. As long as you don't look like a complete slob and are presentable you should be fine, You don't need to be a peacock. While it may arise initial interest it will only be in your clothes and not you, in the end the way you carry yourself and how confident you are will be what keeps her interest regardless of how crazy you dress.

    6. Don't worry about it.

    7. I am not, but I can pull off a pretty good Australian accent.

    Good luck.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: I am new please show me the direction

    Quote Originally Posted by Thatoneguyonforums View Post

    7. I am not, but I can pull off a pretty good Australian accent.
    LOL
    Thanks Mate (read this with an Aussie accent)!

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    Default Re: I am new please show me the direction

    1. does direct approach work? yeah ive seen it work for a lot of guys that only direct approach. there are certain times to use it, i usually recommend people that are learning to start with the direct approach to get used to rejection because until your fine with being rejected you will get rejected. after your used to it start indirectly approaching.

    2. attracting women after meeting them online is tricky because when going in, both people assume that the other cant get a mate without the internet so their attraction level is already down, i recommend eye appreciation from the beginning, and raising sexual tension after a dhv

    3. excuse me doll, do you know where the nearest starbucks is? i use it as my default opener and its honestly the best opener you can use cuz you can steer the cpnvo anywhere from that and its unlikely tlraise her guard.

    4. always approach frpm the front, never from behind.

    5.nah, thats the beauty of pickup it helps guys that dont do that stuff. i recommend it only because it will boost your confidence

    6. no, guys do better when their different and if your a minority youve actually got a leg up if you use it right
    If i get a guy some a$$, he gets it for a day; if i teach him how to get it for himself, he's tappin forever

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    Default Re: I am new please show me the direction

    Thanks guys. You are awesome!

    I went out to practice in-field with a PUA last Saturday. I have been practicing since then and I have received 3 numbers even though none of them has replied to my message (bitches).

    If I keep practicing how long does it normally take to be good at getting dates? is there any time frame? I am going to give up online dating crap so I am wondering how long I will be without a girlfriend ;-)

    Thanks

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    Default Re: I am new please show me the direction

    I think you might be trying to do a little too much too quickly... The kind of change your talking about here isn't going to happen overnight.

    As a beginner I think you should focus on your inner game to start with. You need to work on your self confidence and banish the negativity i.e. "I am bad at attracting women". Well if you think like that you will be, because women will pick-up on your nerves.

    also read this: it will help The Newbie Guide

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    Default Re: I am new please show me the direction

    1. never call them bitches on the forum, if your joking with her, yeah but we respect women. thats rule number one.

    2. how long will you be without a gf? a while. live it up
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