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    Default Change BORING conversations to FUN... how?

    Hi all I'm not good at messaging so I'm new at this.

    Recently I've started talking to this girl about the same boring stuff, We both went to college and did Motor Vehicle so we have been talking about that majority of the day.

    Now I would like to know how I can come over some fears and have a light/funny conversation with any girl I start talking to. I don't believe in playing girls just for fun but I want a relationship... So any ideas of Text openers and carrying the conversation on from there will be a massive help.

    Thanks in advance if anyone can help me get over being shy.

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    Default Re: Change BORING conversations to FUN... how?

    What I like to do is find a common interest between you to and go from there, if all that's gone a bit stale just ask "so watchya doin?" from there whatever she says make the next text a tease or a joke about whatever she is doing. Or you can bring up what you are doing or something interesting that happened to you and go from there. In person is a bit harder, my advice would just try not to think so much about what to say just let it flow and be funny about it. What I find to help in person is before you meet in person, write down all the interesting things you talked about or learned about her during your last meeting and remember them so you always have something to say, other than that bring up some interesting things that happened to you recently. As for being shy what I do to help become more social is to just say hi to people you walk by or people you work with/go to school with, go out of your way to introduce yourself and meet new people. The more you do that the more comfortable you become around others. Good luck.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: Change BORING conversations to FUN... how?

    Since I thought the conversation was getting boring I asked a question about what were both interested in but I knew I could of asked something better and she hasn't replied. So tomorrow I want to be more interesting without talking about work related stuff. Any ideas??? Thanks in advance.

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    Default Re: Change BORING conversations to FUN... how?

    "shit, I want to be gay for one day. You're going to be my counsellor for make up and fashion style starting... right now."

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    Default Re: Change BORING conversations to FUN... how?

    Haha thanks lenric. How would I even put that into a conversation like the beginning or during the middle of the conversation? I need a bunch of ideas for a variety of girls to start the convo and carry it on. Thanks all I'm advance.

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    Default Re: Change BORING conversations to FUN... how?

    Well...

    *kiss kiss* (half-hug her, it's better. starting the kino in a friendly way)

    You: yo yo yo nickname, shit, the minute you got out of home to come meet me it started to rain! ahahahah
    Her: oh so stupid!! ahahahah

    Now you should talk about the importance of the eggs in cookies and how good is for penguins to live in the cold and etc. Just talk about anything that comes to your mind in a funny way and LET HER TALK TOO. Tease her about her answers. Let her qualify herself.

    You: ohhhhhh here we are, I'm gonna walk you right into the beach, 'cause my arabian friends are waiting for me. I told them I'd bring a girl to exchange for some camels ahahah
    Her: blahkdjfdfdks ahahah

    Now things should be going smoothly. Start investing less and less. Let her invest more. DO FUCKING EYE CONTACT. TOUCH HER. PLAY HAND-WRESTLING.

    After some tease tease tease, mix teasing with rapport.
    Don't kiss her (if it is the first date).

    Let the force be with you young padawan and remember, Mr Condom is your best friend, your intuition is your brother

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    Default Re: Change BORING conversations to FUN... how?

    Thanks again lenric haha. Any ideas for over messaging/Facebook.
    I started talking to her but she kept putting one worded answers but I asked about mechanics and she opened up and finally started talking . Now I want to get off that subject to something better and more fun. Thanks for replying.

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    Default Re: Change BORING conversations to FUN... how?

    Depending on how well you know her, a poke approach could work. This involves you poking her, having her poke you back, and then messaging her "Did you poke me?". From there, you just proceed to tease her and entertain not only her, but yourself as well.

    One method that I have invented that has not failed yet works very well for college campuses. This strategy involves you doing a bit of Facebook creeping to find out her likes and such. After this, you ask if you saw her in public and associate her with the certain activity that you share in common with her.

    For example, there was a girl I was interested in, who I have never even met before. I discovered that she was interested in Duke Ellington, and I was familiar with a famous jazz festival of the same name. I decided to message her on Facebook this:

    "Excuse me, but did I see you wearing an Essentially Ellington shirt today?"

    This was three weeks ago. Now, we are very familiar with each other, and we have met in public before. Things are moving steadily and at a pace that I please to set it at, which makes me happy.

    Always try to be creative with your first message. "Hey, what's up?" is the quickest way to say "Just kick me in the arse and out the door right now".
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Change BORING conversations to FUN... how?

    Thanks swagman for some ideas on starting the initial chat.

    Have you got any other ideas since I ain't that comfortable changing subjects (yesterday we was talking about what course we was both doing) so I don't know what we could talk about today or just leave it till tomorrow. Any ideas?
    Thanks all in advance

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    Default Re: Change BORING conversations to FUN... how?

    IMO, the key is to not lock yourself in on a particular set of topics. Be flexible! This will also allow you to switch the subject to something else to keep the conversation from becoming stale if you've been talking about the same thing for a long time. This can be especially effective if you know things of interest, even more so if it's something that isn't on Facebook that you learn either through conversation or another acquaintance.


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