Hi Guys I am a new member in serious need of help. I'll give you a brief background about myself, my problem and my field report for tonight.
I am 28 year old guy , I am student of Management in Barcelona,Spain. I am of Indian origin (Brown skinned..which I feel does act against me sometimes in europe) and my Spanish skills are as bad as Spanish economy. I am 5'9 and have an athletic body , I consider myself good looking (perceptions may vary). I am a confident person as such and have even spoken a lot on stage (not much stage fear too)..in fact one of my problems is I end up talking too much.
So today I went to this Irish Pub which had a karaoke night. One of my biggest problems is I am solo , I don't have a wingman , since when I go out in group of classmates I'm too conscious that every one is watching I usually go Sarging alone (which sucks..). So I went to the pub and looked around , the place looked dry. I had promised myself that i will talk to at least 2 hot girls of every 5 I see ,thats a motivater I keep , with every hot girl I don't talk to I put a -1 in my head and when the count hits -3, I have to talk to next girls I see under any condition. So I was already running -2 , then I saw these two girls walk up to the bar. I treid to have some conversation -Opener I used was" Isn't there supposed to be a karaoke here tonight" , the girls were not intrested and snubbed me and turned around. Bad start i felt , after few more negative points because I could not talk to few girls , I had to talk to these two cute girls I saw. So I sucked up all courage and walked up to them and said ," so who is your favorite performer of the night". Turned out they were Argentinian and they were friendly and started chatting. I had initially thought of hitting on this one girl , and hence when and talked to her friend. But turned out her friend was actually more hot and open. I tried a few Negs , but they were either too innocent , or had language problems or music was loud , but could not really understand it. Anyways I was having a fun conversation and actually convinced one of them to sing a karaoke song first time in her life, even though she was sh1t sacred ( may be i imposed myself too hard).I had quite a few kinos as I touched her hair and shoulder to buck up her confidence. So now we waited for her song to come which I promised I will sing with her (even though I don't know any Spanish). Now the wait was too long like more than 1.5 hours. I defenitely could not keep the conversation interesting all time , i took loo breaks (because of all beer i wa drinking) and there were times of lull silence with all of us just watching ppl sing at times. Now her song came , we went on stage but turned out the song which they played was a different one and so we came back. They didn't even play my song (which i thought I will rock and prove my High Value). So we come back and this spanish guy comes and start chatting with these girls. And they being spanish are also chatting up. Now I don't wanna look nervous , so I ignore them and listen to ppl singing and do my thing. So I get up and walk around to bar , I come back and see -boom- the girls are gone. After one hour of chatting uo , making them do something they have never done in life , I could not even get a number close.
And that is the f*cking story of my life , it has happened to me sooooo many times when girls I chatted up were taken by some other guys who eventually made out and what not with them. And I am left wondering what did I do worng , am I ugly or is it my race (yes its stupid but i do think so too at times). And this really hurts my ego real bad , as someone steals my girl. Whats worst is , I am not that bad with approaching , I am able to do it 2 out of 5 times , of course I would like it to be 5 out of 5 , but my game after approach is all screwed up.
1. I don't know how to keep conversation from dying and keep it funney and interesting.
2. I don't know how to close the deal , either get her number or get her back home.
3. I really need to know how to stop loosing my girl to other losers.
4. Is there any way to come over language handicap (yes I can learn the language and I am taking classes , but it takes sh1t load of time to reach to their lvl)
After this pub , I went to a night club Sutton. I cant start how screwed up my game was here. The club was full of sh*t hot women. But it was dark and music was too loud and it was almost impossible to talk to any girl. I did make a few attempts , I was so drunk and Inhibitionless that I even tried to talk to one of the dancers , but it was all vain. though I don't feel soo bad since most of guys had same fate. I need some help with :
1. How to approach women in clubs , when music is loud and there is no chance of talking and trying techniques. If you ignore them , some giuy will walk up to them and take them.
2. On dance floors when girls have all the power to chose and reject guys and they do so solely on basis of looks, height , acquaintance and god knows what.
3. I tried to talk to a girl asking which dancer would she pick , she said she doent care , and was not interested , is that a bad opener. What openers can i try in clubs.
I know I'm asking for a lot , but I need a lot of help. Please help me guys.
Any help will be highly appreciated. i am very frustrated and would be your lifelong bonded slave if you help me out guys (and if slavery is legal in your country.)