Here is the rub. When I feel my sexual desire, I want to get sex quickly, oftentimes there is no girl available for me to have sex with before my sexual desire wears thin. Of course I don't want to go to a brothel or get a call girl.
When my sexual desire wears thin or I don't feel my sexual desire, I don't want to invest my time and effort in communicating with girls.
When I chat with a girl, I just want to engage in sexual chat with her, otherwise I don't want to chat with her at all. I sneakingly and wishfully think that I may get sex from a girl by chatting about sex with her, which rarely happens in real life. When I chat about sex with her, I am having sex with her with my brain/mind as opposed to my body. And I can still get some sexual gratification or satisfaction from it, but it often cuts off my chances to have sex with her in real life. I get some satisfaction with my imagination, but I lose my chances to get satisfaction from the real body experience. When I am attracted to a girl, I feel compelled to talk about sex with her. If I don't talk about sex, then oftentimes I don't know what to say.
It seems to be a dilemma.
How can I tackle this issue?