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    Default sexual desires get in the way

    Here is the rub. When I feel my sexual desire, I want to get sex quickly, oftentimes there is no girl available for me to have sex with before my sexual desire wears thin. Of course I don't want to go to a brothel or get a call girl.

    When my sexual desire wears thin or I don't feel my sexual desire, I don't want to invest my time and effort in communicating with girls.

    When I chat with a girl, I just want to engage in sexual chat with her, otherwise I don't want to chat with her at all. I sneakingly and wishfully think that I may get sex from a girl by chatting about sex with her, which rarely happens in real life. When I chat about sex with her, I am having sex with her with my brain/mind as opposed to my body. And I can still get some sexual gratification or satisfaction from it, but it often cuts off my chances to have sex with her in real life. I get some satisfaction with my imagination, but I lose my chances to get satisfaction from the real body experience. When I am attracted to a girl, I feel compelled to talk about sex with her. If I don't talk about sex, then oftentimes I don't know what to say.

    It seems to be a dilemma.

    How can I tackle this issue?

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    Default Re: sexual desires get in the way

    Some girls are willing to chat about sex with me online, but if things go real, and I propose that we meet in real life, they often retreat. What's the problem? How can I solve it?

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    Default Re: sexual desires get in the way

    If you like using your imagination so much it's time to attach that imaginary leash around your neck. Control yourself bro. You do know what to say. You just don't think you do because all you WANT to talk about is sex. You have to control that burning instinct that lies hidden within all of us in hopes of bettering yourself. I personally want to have sex 365 days a year and only want to talk about sex. How do you go about controlling this urge? Practice. Force yourself to go out and hold conversations with random strangers. Don't number close, don't kiss close, none of that shit. Literally just go out and talk to girls. It will be hard to follow especially if the interactions are going good, but that's what I'd do to tame the beast.

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    Default Re: sexual desires get in the way

    I feel that I use the activity of talking about sex with girls to release my sexual desire, once my sexual desire is released,I can focus on my work, I can focus on my study. Period.

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    Default Re: sexual desires get in the way

    Life is all about balance. If you're not willing to strive for that balance then you're never going to get past this problem. I want to eat all the time too, but I know if I do that then I'll get fat. Talking about sex may release your sexual desire, but it's still not sex. If you want sex you have to practice controlling your desire to then attain sex.

    From experience, tackling issues like these head on are the best way to deal with them. Sure it was help you focus on your work, but its detracting from other aspects of your life. Learn to focus off of will power and not talking sex with random girls.

    In pursuit of creating the best me that I can, I don't want to be held down by things. I don't want say I can only do "A" if I do "B" first. I want to wake the fuck up and do "A", end of story. You have to let go of who you are to become who you want to be.


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