I go out to do something, usually I meet some girls or women during the process, and I have the opportunities to strike up a conversation with them or flirt with them, however, I find I end up not doing that in reality. Why? I think there are four reasons:
1. I need to be high-profile, so I can get people's attention. But in real life, I often keep a low profile and I don't want people's attention. I feel it is more comfortable.If I am high-profile, people look at me, they may whisper with each others, they may make sniggering comments.
2.To flirt with a girl or woman, I need to be high-energy state. I don't want to keep a high-energy state, because I think my energy is a constant, if an energetic state will consume me more energy, thus I have less energy for other matters. I worry that It will consume my limited energy.
3. I often think about the matters I need to do, I am obsessed with the things undone, I can not completely live in the present moment.If I want to be attractive on the spot, I need to have myself immersed in that occasion.
4.If I flirt with a girl or woman, it will slow down the things I do. For example, if I go to see a doctor, normally I need 1 hour, but if I flirt with the doctor, I may need 1.2 hours to finish it.
What's your take?