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Thread: No IOIs . WTF?

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    Default No IOIs . WTF?

    Guys,
    I got a drop dead gorgeous girl's number. She does not show any IOIs. She went on a coffee date with me though. She still responses to my texts. I don't know whether I should let her go or chase her (I like her, I confess!).

    Just so you know what's happening in the text stream I should say she was jogging in a park. I gave her a high-five and once she gave me a high-five back I hold her hand gently and slowed her down. ;-)

    Same night text:

    Me: Hey walking girl, totally random (but nice) chatting to you. do handsome men stop you often?

    HB: Hey <my name with wrong spelling>, that was very interesting talking to you.
    Me: I knew I would have to spell my name for you. Blah Blah.
    HB: Oh really sorry to misspell your name. Maybe you should give high five to more people so your name becomes more popular.
    Me: I high-fived a dog but she did not respond! ;-)

    No reply here. Next day I sent an opener (she is a lawyer):

    Me: Question: How was copper wire invented?
    HB: I don't know - Please enlighten me.
    Me: Two lawyers argued over a penny!
    HB: Hahaha so funny. we are not that bad :-)
    Me: It was a joke but this one is real. Saturday morning a computer engineer is having breakfast/coffee with a beautiful layer at xxx cafe.

    After one day and a half she replied: Sorry I cannot do Saturday morning, coffee on Sunday arvo?
    Me: Sounds good. Let's meet at 4.

    Next day we met for coffee. After that I texted:

    ME: It was lovely to meet you <her name>. Looking forward to seeing you again.

    No reply here!

    Next day:

    ME: OMG! I just met your twin.
    HB: I did not I had a twin.

    I wanted to send 'She was not as cute as you but she would be good for a great thrisome'. I restrained from sending this and instead I said 'It appears that you have. I will invite her to our second date!'. No Reply again!

    I don't see any sign of attraction here. Do you think I should invite her for a second date? On the first date I touched her hands and pat her etc. She did not allow me to give her compliments!

    Is there any way to rectify this crappy situation?

    Thanks

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    Default Re: No IOIs . WTF?

    enlighten us on what happened on your date. I'm curious why the focus is on the texting and not the date.

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    Default Re: No IOIs . WTF?

    All you're doing is being funny. You're forgetting the escalation part. I did enjoy the lawyer joke. LMAO

    You're also initiating all the convo so the frame is set that you're chasing her.

    If your date is anything like you're texting, I assume you didn't verbally or physically escalate there either. Move on.

    But advice for next time, try to escalate sexually a little bit over text(be subtle about it of course). Then be physical on the date. Good Luck

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    Default Re: No IOIs . WTF?

    Quote Originally Posted by Suave Kino View Post
    enlighten us on what happened on your date. I'm curious why the focus is on the texting and not the date.
    You are right. I think I screwed the date. On purpose I asked her to sit on the sofa (so I could sit next to her), she avoided that and sat on a chair!

    I made compliments but she said no compliments please!

    Then I found an excuse (e.g. nice rings) to touch her hands. Then I touched her face and when leaving the cafe I hold her hand gently.

    I don't remember anything wrong during the date except for escalation. The reason that escalation did not happen was SHE. I though she was different and since I liked her I was too cautious.

    I went out yesterday and got some numbers. Already have 3 dates lined up. But I confess I liked this one so that's why I am kicking myself :-)

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    Default Re: No IOIs . WTF?

    Well sounds like A+B /=/C here.

    Came in hot at the beginning and got her number, then didnt reflect that same initial attitude later on and possibly turned her off....cant think of the term right now that we use but maybe someone else can better explain it. Congruency?

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    Default Re: No IOIs . WTF?

    Quote Originally Posted by Dj Chill View Post
    Well sounds like A+B /=/C here.

    Came in hot at the beginning and got her number, then didnt reflect that same initial attitude later on and possibly turned her off....cant think of the term right now that we use but maybe someone else can better explain it. Congruency?
    Yes, it is called congruency. Being congruent in your interactions with her is key. If you are like a perfect gentlemen meeting her but then text her cocky funny sh!t, that's not congruent


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