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    Default A girl is giving me BS...

    Ok i posted a month or so ago about a chick from my college. Here is the link - http://www.puaforums.com/ask-expert/...-help-one.html I have gotten her number but now she is giving me some BS saying that she isn't into me yet keeps giving me these massive IOIs. I have gone No contact with her but i still se her in school every other day(We have a class together) If she engages me should i act distant or ignore her altogether or what? I'm unsure of how to get around this obstacle. Was No contact the right call and how do i proceed from here? Thanks for the help guys.

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    Default Re: A girl is giving me BS...

    Why are you still hooked on her? You say you have moved on, yet you are still talking about trying to succeed with her, when clearly that will not happen at the present moment. The more you think about her, the more you will continue to crumble and succumb to her.

    To answer your question, do not reject her in public. You are a man of the higher road, and you don't want to stoop down to bitchy activities. If she approaches you, chat with her. Be flirty, be genuine, and maybe even hit her with a neg for not talking to you. Don't try to push it anymore though, and don't try to approach her yourself. If she's giving you mixed signals, make it clear that you will not tolerate this purple bs. She either has to be red, or blue, not both.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: A girl is giving me BS...

    BE the better man... who cares at this point.
    If she has been flakey, oh well... You have to show HER that she isn't a sweat off your back.


    I recently broke up with my ex/ now current gf... I ended it. Just wasn't happy.
    I literally told myself, I give it one day until she comes crawling to me.

    Low and behold, I get a phone call having her begging me to see her.

    I wasn't a jerk. I was the bigger man.


    So many times in college, if a girl was flakey and off, I wouldn't take it personally. People take a rejection (in any way or shape or form) too personal. It isn't. Honestly, people just vibe or don't. Some people can build that attraction and sexual tension, some just don't click.

    Don't be personal with it.

    Let her come up, be flirty funny and exciting. Who knows, maybe one of her friends will be like, "omg who was that? He is so fun"

    Being the "fun" "cool" guy goes a LONG way.
    girls love it and find it so damn sexy

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    Default Re: A girl is giving me BS...

    Could be her testing the waters to see if your going to be too possessive and eager.....

    Some will let things "cook" like this, theyll talk to you, know whats up..then let you squirm by blocking you and seeing if youll react like a AFC and get pissed or whine....

    The idea is as soon as they act like this just let em go and see if they come back onto you or re-initiate.

    Done it in the past myself, in the initial stages like you, think I got something good going, then they stop responding....ahhh well let it ride that way...some never respond again then some will call back with a "different attitude". Just dont flinch and get overly concerned about it.

    If shes already said shes not into you then it sounds like you flinched already, or maybe just had a outright discussion with her about it...sounds like its a no go then.

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    Default Re: A girl is giving me BS...

    Quote Originally Posted by Swagman View Post
    Why are you still hooked on her? You say you have moved on, yet you are still talking about trying to succeed with her, when clearly that will not happen at the present moment. The more you think about her, the more you will continue to crumble and succumb to her.

    To answer your question, do not reject her in public. You are a man of the higher road, and you don't want to stoop down to bitchy activities. If she approaches you, chat with her. Be flirty, be genuine, and maybe even hit her with a neg for not talking to you. Don't try to push it anymore though, and don't try to approach her yourself. If she's giving you mixed signals, make it clear that you will not tolerate this purple bs. She either has to be red, or blue, not both.
    Haha. I am by no means hooked on her. I am talking to and dating other girls but i see no point in burning an open bridge when she is giving me such clear IOIs. Thanks for the advise guys. Sounds like I have handled it about like you have said so ill just let it simmer like this until something either happens or until i get bored with it. Lol.


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