Re: Getting our of your head?
I'd have to partially disagree with trying to get outside of your head. I like to try to get inside of my own head as often as possible. I've been studying Buddhism now for a while, and I have discovered some interesting things through my meditations. The point of meditation in Buddhism is to focus and identify your own desires. To figure out what your desires are, go do some meditation and only focus on your breathing and nothing else. If you find yourself detracted from your breathing, that is your desire distracting you. When you perceive this, you should remember it and work towards eliminating this desire. Through eliminating your desires, you eliminate your fears of failure and need to go after someone.
The reason I partially agree is because of what occurs after meditation. After meditation occurs the Fire Watch, which is a period of extreme concentration. What you basically do is you focus on EVERYTHING around you. You pass by some furniture in your house. What kind of furniture is it? What color is it? How does it feel? You interact with your surroundings and stay in the present. This is absolutely perfect for pick-up artists because it is training to keep them focused on their objectives.
Another thing to keep in mind is just practice. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. Now, it's virtually effortless for me to fire up a chat with a stranger. You'll get there eventually too, you just have to be willing to put in the work though.
"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X